10 things you should stop saying to your child – and what to say instead
If your child does something you don’t like, then keep in mind that you don’t need to discuss their actions then and there. When you immediately confront a child, asking them, “Why?” You are forcing them to think about their behaviour and to analyze it. They might also shut down and get defensive. Instead, open the lines of communication by attempting to understand what your child was feeling and needing when they did what they did. You might discover that your own disappointment about the incident diminishes.