Because of our conservative upbringing, many Filipino wives blush at the mere mention of pornography. Some are even against the idea of porn, and choose to stay away from it. But did you know that viewing erotic material together with your spouse can actually be good for your marriage?
Studies show that porn can help strengthen emotional and sexual intimacy between you and your spouse. The shared experience of watching a sensual movie or reading a sexy book brings husband and wife closer together. It also helps you get to know more about your spouse and better understand what he or she likes in bed.
Ease into things by exploring couple-friendly adult material with your spouse. Couple-friendly means it isn’t focused on being explicit, but instead features a better story line, lots of kissing, and even romance, making it interesting for women to watch, too.
Interested to take the heat up a notch or two in the bedroom? Here are some options to get you started.
Magazines for mature audiences are among the easiest couple-friendly adult material that you can come by.
Explore magazines
If you are shy about reaching for the heavier stuff, start slow with couple-friendly adult material found in magazines. Men’s magazines like FHM, Playboy, and Esquire are easy to come by, as they can be found in most magazine stands and bookstores.
You could try women’s magazines too, like Cosmopolitan and Glamour. Buy a few of the latest issues and browse through the photos and articles with your husband. You could also answer a sexy quiz together, and who knows how exciting things can get from there?
Pick up a new book
While you are at the bookstore, check out the selection of erotic books available there, too. Reading your favorite parts out loud to your husband could prove to be an arousing experience for the both of you. There are a lot of sexy reading materials to choose from, and you may or may not choose to go hardcore with your reading options.
Classics like Vladimir Nabokov’s Lolita and Judy Blume’s Forever are among the must-read titles. If Fifty Shades of Grey does it for you, then go ahead and buy all three novels of the series, or check out The Black Lace books, written for and by women.
Author Anne Rice also released an erotic book collection, The Sleeping Beauty Series under the pseudonym A.N. Roquelaure. If you prefer something light and funny, pick up Cora Carmack’s Losing It series. If all else fails, there’s always the Kama Sutra.
See more erotic materials for couples to explore on the next page!
See a skin flick
Not all skin flicks are created equal. There are actually those that have well-written plots and are artfully produced. Swimmingly.com shares a list of film titles that range from educational to voyeuristic, which you could explore if you decide to watch couple-friendly adult material together with your spouse.
They even have comedy titles to recommend like The Sex Files and Game of Bones, porn parodies of popular TV series. The added bit of humor can help make watching porn a little less embarrassing for women.
Cuddle up with your laptop and browse though couple-friendly adult material online any time of day with your spouse.
Surf the internet
You can find a lot of couple-friendly adult material on the internet, if you know where to look. Literotica is a good place to start. Visit the site for erotic stories, photos and videos.
Good Vibrations After Dark is another site, which offers women-friendly curated on-demand videos, and even sex education movies for couples. Quick searches on YouTube and Tumblr could also lead you to exciting finds online.
In case you feel shy about it, go incognito. When you are in private or incognito mode, your browser history is not saved in your computer. Remember, though, that this does not mean you are surfing anonymously, as websites will still be able to recognize your IP address.
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