Alam nating lahat na hindi maiiwasan ang magka-disagreement minsan, pero ang mag-argue in front of your kids can have a serious impact on their emotional and psychological well-being. Kaya naman, it’s important na malaman kung paano ito maka-apekto sa mga bata. Let’s explore 8 reasons kung bakit mas mabuti na iwasan ang magtalo sa harap ng mga anak.
1. Emotional Distress
Ang mga bata parang sponge—they absorb everything around them. Kapag nag-aaway kayo, kahit hindi nila naiintindihan lahat ng nangyayari, mararamdaman nila yung tension. This can cause them to feel anxious, scared, or even sad. Mahirap isipin, pero imagine kung ganun kalaki ang epekto sa bata kapag nakakaramdam sila ng hindi safe ang environment nila sa bahay.
2. Feeling Resentment
Kapag palaging nag-aaway ang mga magulang, pwedeng magdulot ito ng resentment sa anak. They might feel like they’re stuck in the middle, and that creates emotional turmoil. Kung pinipilit silang pumili ng side, hindi lang naapektuhan ang relationship nila with one or both parents, kundi pati ang buong family dynamic.
3. Long-Term Psychological Effects
Ang epekto ng pagtatalo sa harap ng mga bata ay hindi lang para sa ngayon. Pwedeng magtagal ito hanggang pagtanda. Chronic exposure sa conflict can lead to mental health issues like anxiety at depression. Kung lumaki sila sa isang hostile environment, may emotional scars na pwedeng magtulak sa kanila na magkaroon ng difficulty sa dealing with stress at relationships as they grow older.
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4. Modelling Negative Behaviour
Ang mga bata natututo sa pamamagitan ng pagmamasid. Kung palagi nilang nakikita na magka-away ang parents nila, maiisip nila na okay lang magtalo at magalit. And this can affect how they handle their own relationships. Hindi nila matututunan na mag-communicate effectively or resolve conflicts in a healthy way, and this can carry over into their own adult relationships.
5. Increased Insecurity
Ang arguments sa bahay can create an unstable environment. Kids might start to worry about what will happen in the future—like, baka maghiwalay ang mga magulang nila, or baka magbago ang pamilya nila. This kind of insecurity can make them clingy or lead to acting out. It’s hard to ignore the fear na baka mawalan sila ng stable home environment.
6. Impact on Self-Esteem
Minsan, mga bata iniisip nila na sila ang may kasalanan sa mga arguments. Kung ganun, maaaring mawalan sila ng self-esteem. Kung feeling nila na sila ang dahilan ng away ng parents, it can lead to feelings of guilt and shame na pwedeng magtagal, and that can affect their emotional growth in the long run.
7. Poor Conflict Resolution Skills
Kapag nakikita ng mga bata na ang magulang nila ay hindi magkasundo, at parang hindi naayos ang problema, baka matutunan nila na shouting or fighting is the way to resolve disagreements. Hindi nila matututunan yung healthy communication skills, and this will affect how they deal with conflicts when they grow older. Healthy conflict resolution is something they’ll miss out on.
8. Diverting Attention from Their Needs
Lastly, kapag nag-aaway ang mga magulang, madalas na na-o-overlook yung emotional needs ng mga bata. Kung ang focus ay sa away, hindi na bibigyan ng sapat na attention ang feelings ng anak. This can lead to feelings of isolation at disconnect sa parents nila.
Takeaway
Ang magtalo in front of your children can seriously affect their emotional and psychological well-being. It can lead to resentment, low self-esteem, at long-term emotional issues. Bilang mga magulang, it’s important to keep a peaceful home environment, and learn to resolve conflicts privately. This protects your children and helps create a nurturing environment where they can thrive emotionally. Remember, a harmonious home is key to raising well-adjusted kids.
Republished with permission from theAsianparent Singapore.
Translated to Tagalog via Google Translate.
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