Women often come into a marriage thinking that they’ll never feel unwanted or ugly again. However, the reality is, there will be days when they don’t feel attractive at all, and sadly, sometimes it’s because of something their husbands did or did not do.
Though it’s important that your wife also makes efforts to build up her self-confidence, husbands should also be careful that they don’t hurt their wives’ feelings inadvertently. Here are the different things that husbands do to make their wives feel ugly, as compiled from ZenParent and Roasted.
1. Not listening to her
When your wife is talking to you, listen, and make sure that she knows that you’re listening. Make eye contact, and resist the urge to take a peek at your phone. Remember that she is more important than your emails or whatever is going on in your social media feeds.
2. Not paying attention to the efforts she makes
Your wife values your opinion, and when she buys a new dress or changes up her hair, how you respond to it is hugely important to her. Men aren’t exactly known for noticing these little things, which is why you should make an effort to pay attention to her. If you notice anything different, compliment her. She’ll be so glad that you noticed the change.
3. Praising another woman too much
There isn’t anything wrong with acknowledging another woman’s strengths, but if you overdo it, your wife might think that you’re comparing her with that other woman.
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4. Looking at pornography
Watching or looking at pornography might be telling your wife that she isn’t enough. Though some women say that they’re fine with their partners viewing adult material, most would feel hurt and betrayed if they knew that their husbands still watched porn. And even if she didn’t know about your viewing habits, porn can still affect your relationship. According to Fight the New Drug, research has found men who watched porn felt less in love with their partner, becoming more critical of their partner’s appearance and sexual performance.
5. Gawking at other women
Noticing other women’s beauty may be unavoidable, but for the sake of your wife, do your best not to ogle. No matter how subtle you think you’re being, your wife will notice if you’re checking out another woman.
6. Not making the first move
If your wife is always the one who initiates sex, it won’t be long before she starts feeling unwanted and unattractive. Meet her halfway and make the first move every now and then as well.
7. Only making physical contact when you want sex
A hug or a kiss on the forehead can feel so much more intimate than sex. Let your wife know that you value her not only for sex, and that you find her attractive even when you’re not “in the mood”.
8. Not affirming her with words
If you think your wife looks beautiful, tell her so. If you appreciate what she does for the family, tell her so. Don’t assume that she knows what you’re thinking and sincerely compliment her regularly so that she will always feel loved.
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