Healthy relationships are built upon trust and respecting each other’s need for privacy is an expression of this trust. It’s natural to be suspicious, especially if you’ve been hurt in the past, but all the fear that they might break your trust can lead you to break theirs. How? By constantly violating their privacy, which can happen without you realizing it.
Here are some ways you can give your better half some space for a healthier relationship.
1. Allow each other to have your own social media accounts
Sure, some couples find sharing Facebook accounts economical, as they have pretty much have the same social circle, but sharing a social media account for the sake of tracking your partner’s online interactions can be tedious and display a lack of trust.
2. Stop constantly snooping on their phone or Facebook
This forms an unhealthy habit of always doubting if you’re partner is being faithful. If you have issues, it’s best to bring it up with him first before cracking his passwords or forcing him to give you access.
3. Don’t eavesdrop on phone calls
Give them time to have conversations without you listening in. Don't hover unless they ask you to. Give them space to take phone calls, work-related or otherwise, without forcing yourself into the conversation. This shows you trust them to share any pertinent information later.
4. Don’t track their every move
Don’t put a tracking device or app on them without their knowledge. Yes, you can keep tabs on them to make sure they’re safe, but they should agree to it. Avoid sneaking behind their back to find out what they’re up to. Ask them. This will not only build trust, but improve communication and can even strengthen your bond.
If you suspect your partner is hiding something, it’s best to go straight to the source. Talk to them about it. Confide in them about your worries. Let them know what’s bothering you so you can address it together.
In the same way, open up when you feel that your privacy is being violated. A healthy relationship isn’t built upon talking about the things that come easy. It’s the difficult conversations that help you strengthen your connection and deepen your understanding of one another.
sources: LoveisRespect.org, The Huffington Post, Family Share
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