Celebrity dad Erwan Heussaff opens up about his feelings on raising his baby Dahlia. Read more about it here.
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- Erwan Heussaff opens up about his shortcomings as a dad to Baby Dahlia
- What Erwan wants to work on in terms of being a father
He's a restaurateur, a chef, a famous vlogger, influencer, and Anne Curtis' better half. But despite all of these titles, Erwan Heussaff is just a regular dad to his one-year-old baby girl, Dahlia Amelie.
Erwann Heussaff married showbiz superstar Anne Curtis in 2017. In March 2020, at the beginning of the lockdown, Anne gave birth to their firstborn, Dahlia Amelie, in her hometown in Australia.
In a super exclusive interview on Wil Dasovich's vlog, the first-time dad got very personal and talked about his experience as a father, his shortcomings, and what he wants to improve on as a parent.
Parent Guilt
We've all heard of the term "mom guilt," but for the first time, we hear a dad talking about being guilty of his shortcomings, or as Erwan coined it, "parent guilt."
In the video, which seemed like a teaser to the full interview which is available on Spotify, Wil asked Erwan how he would rate himself as a dad. To Wil's surprise (and ours too), the hands-on dad gave himself a 6 out of 10.
Why the low rating? Erwan admitted that despite being with his baby more often because of the lockdown, he still feels that he's not doing enough as a parent.
"You always feel like you're not doing enough. It's something that you need to work through," said the new dad. "Even just going out one day for work, you feel guilt."
What Erwan said next would probably encapsulate what most working dads (and moms) feel.
"It doesn't make you a bad parent if you're out working, but it just makes you feel guilty for not being there," he confessed.
Doubting himself as a parent
The celebrity dad also talked about the doubts and anxieties that haunt new parents - like second-guessing your decisions and bringing up your baby in a chaotic world.
"You're never going to be good enough because you're always second-guessing what you're doing," he shared. "It's a lot of pressure to grow a human being," he added.
Erwan admitted that the pandemic has identified his feelings of guilt. As the father, he feels the burden to protect his daughter from the crazy world that they have brought her into.
"You ask yourself, how crazy is this world that you're bringing a child into. So you want to try to make sure that you protect the child as much as you can," he said.
He regrets that Dahlia won't be able to experience simple pleasures like looking at trees and the sky - things that are robbed from small children in this pandemic.
"Just the thought of me not being able to provide her with these simple things. It's just tough to think about it," he added.
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Some parents think that the lockdowns are a "blessing in disguise" because it forces you to spend time with your children, but Erwan had mixed feelings about it.
"It helped because you're definitely more present at home. But you're also bringing the stress at work at home, so it is sometimes very hard to balance both."
When Wil asked him what area of parenting does he want to work on or improve in, Erwan said that it's compartmentalization.
As parents, we know that if we're too focused on planning everything and preparing for tomorrow. We might miss out on the priceless moments that our child is doing today. And as someone who always tends to be two steps ahead, Erwan admitted that he needs to work on being present.
"My mind is always thinking about what I need to do next versus focusing on what I need to do now," he explained. "It's very hard to shut off and not look at my phone," he added
For such a private and timid person, it's so refreshing to hear Erwan's insights about fatherhood and we hope to see more of him and Dahlia soon.