Many people have asked for years, where is this G-spot location? It’s been talked about for years. But people still struggle with where the G-spot actually is, or if it’s even real or not. Sex therapists and other experts have time and again explained how to find the G-spot location and how to stimulate it.
So, the question is, does the G-spot even exist?
G-spot location, a gynecological myth
A review published by the journal Clinical Anatomy is challenging the existence of the G-spot location. They have concluded that neither the vaginal orgasm nor the G-spot exist.
“Like most things that are about sex, people get very hot and bothered on either end of this, but I really can’t say from my clinical practice that I’m at all convinced that there is a G-spot,” says Dr. Gail Saltz, a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital. She’s also the author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life.
“I think that a lot of women are very frustrated trying to attain something that may not be attainable.”
Is the G-spot just a myth?
Correct word use in referring to G-spot location
In the review, Italian researchers Vincenzo Puppo and Guilia Puppo emphasize the importance of using the correct words when discussing women’s sexual organs and their capacity for orgasm.
They write that the so-called G-spot (a word that refers to a spot located inside the vagina’s pelvic urethra which, when stimulated, induces pleasure) does not exist.
Instead, every woman is capable of orgasming based on clitoral stimulation. They argue that “vaginal orgasm” is incorrect and that “female orgasm” should be used instead.
The original research on G-spots was based on a woman who “identified an erotically sensitive spot, palpable through the anterior wall of her vagina.”
The woman stated that when the area was touched, it became larger. It also caused increased sensitivity, pleasure, and a desire to urinate. So the original researchers concluded: “the orgasms she experienced in response to the Gräfenberg stimulation felt much the same.”
Research claims that vaginal orgasms don’t exist, and that women climax purely through clitoral stimulation.
A flawed study regarding G-spot location
In the latest review, however, researchers point out that the woman in the research also reported something else. At the time of the study’s testing, she had been diagnosed with a grade one cystocele, a condition in which “the supportive tissue between a woman’s bladder and vaginal wall weakens and stretches, allowing the bladder to bulge into the vagina.”
The side effects of the cystocele, the review authors argue, make the woman in question a poor study candidate as the basis of a sexual theory with flimsy subsequent medical proof.
In spite of previous studies, the researchers state that the vagina has no anatomical relationship with the clitoris.
“The correct and simple anatomical term to describe the cluster of erectile tissues (i.e. clitoris, vestibular bulbs and pars intermedia, labia minora, and corpus spongiosum of the female urethra) responsible for female orgasm, is ‘female penis,’” they wrote.
The female penis and the G-spot location
The clitoris on the left, the penis on the right.
Now, some of you moms and dads reading this might find the idea of a “female penis” weird, but hear us out. The clitoris and penis share a few similarities regarding sexual pleasure, starting with their shape. Increased blood flow can cause the spongy tissues in both to engorge with blood as the person nears orgasm.
However, we can’t see when this happens with a woman because much of the unerect clitoris is not visible. The unerect clitoris may be up to 9cm long, according to a seminal paper on the clitoris published by Australian urologist Helen O’Connell in 1998.
It’s important for men to remember that the majority of women do not (we repeat, DO NOT) experience orgasms during intercourse. Saltz says that a clear understanding of how the vagina works is vital for women looking for sexual pleasure. This is especially important for women who feel “broken” due to the inability to orgasm. Including the shame that comes with it.
The G-spot location, misunderstood
Saltz says the clitoris “is not just sticking out in plain view with a clear directions manual, so that means that a woman has to be familiar with herself, having looked and understood and experienced.”
“Then she has to transmit that to her partner in a way that’s comfortable for both of them, and it isn’t always easy,” she adds.
The male penis can’t stimulate the clitoris during intercourse (obviously, unless the man has two penises). So the researchers recommend masturbation, cunnilingus, partner masturbation, or using a finger (or multiple fingers) during vaginal/anal intercourse. The point being: do not leave the clitoris in a corner.
However, Saltz did also say that a lot of the recent data on female arousal revolves around how a woman feels psychologically instead of physically. It’s about feeling “loved,” “attractive” or “safe.”
More power to finding the G-spot location
What about the women who say they have orgasms from G-spot stimulation? Saltz says, that’s good and more power to them (essentially). She does say though that being singularly focused on achieving orgasm might not be the most direct route to pleasure.
“The way that we talk about it in society, many women feel that [orgasm] is what they’re supposed to do and that that would be the supreme success of the encounter,” Saltz says. “But most women do report that it’s the closeness; it’s the shared intimacy; and, of course, the physical arousal is pleasurable by itself.”
G-spot location not the main focus
Still, Saltz admits she’s surprised that these findings debunking “vaginal orgasm” are even considered news at all.
“The G-spot is an issue and there are definitely people who feel strongly that it’s real,” Saltz says. “But I think that women who are fairly sexually educated know that their clitoris is where it’s at, so to speak.”
A lot of people have believed that the G-spot exists. Many others have wondered where this G-spot location is. Perhaps experts have touched upon a fitting conclusion here. The pinnacle of female sexual pleasure doesn’t rest in the G-Spot alone.
Source: The Huffington Post, Wiley Online Library
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