Can a marriage survive bed death? Couples and experts weigh in
The Honeymoon stage can’t last forever. But, in the absence of intimacy, can marriages still thrive?
Answers vary. But, sadly, this is something that many couples will experience at some point in their marriage.
Bed death is pretty much the kiss of death for many marriages but about 15 to 20% of marriages are sexless.
What makes a marriage sexless is if the couple have had no sex in at least six months.
One concerned user on ParentTown asked anonymously: “Can you have a great marriage without great sex? How about no sex?”
One user suggested that one should never be afraid to initiate intimacy. Say something like: ‘We haven’t had sex in a while, and I miss you,'” Don’t complain about it — that’s not going to get you laid. Go for the sweetness. Choose the time of day that works for both of you; maybe set the scene with some candlelight, romantic music or whatever helps you both get into the mood.”
Another user agreed that it is possible for some; but certainly not for the majority:
“A great marriage – but possibly a short-lived one. Physical intimacy and procreating are two of the most beautiful things a couple can share. Possible, yes, anything’s possible (depends on the personalities, priorities, and values of the couple), but it’s definitely not for most.
Though it’s natural to have less sex over the years, there has to be a consistent expression of intimacy–no matter what form it takes.
“I know in the craziness of parenthood, our sex drive may vanish – but it’s one of the core pillars of a healthy marriage. Doesn’t need to be intercourse, but definitely some sort of sexual activity is necessary,” says one ParentTown user.
Find some expert advice on how to cope with a sexless marriage on the next page