The secret to staying connected and super in love doesn’t always lie in grand, sweeping gestures or romantic getaways. Often, relationships thrive through the simple, consistent gestures of love.
Here are some daily habits of happy couples who stay super in love, according to relationship experts.
1. They compliment each other
Sex and relationship blogger Melissa Chapman tells Women’s Health: “I seriously tell my husband at least once a day how hot and handsome he is. And every time I do, he looks at me and I SWEAR he gets tears in his eyes and says, ‘Thank you for saying that.'”
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2. They kiss when meeting and parting
Giving your spouse a slight peck (or even a deep kiss) when you say hello and goodbye is a way to connect to one another before you go about your day. This simple but romantic habit truly works wonders. Just ask psychologist and dating coach Samantha Rodman. “Far from being a meaningless habit, this ensures that you connect, even for just a moment, at least twice a day. Many people in unhappy relationships say that they can’t recall when they stopped kissing at greetings and goodbyes, it just slips away without effort,” she told the Huffington Post. “When you make the time to make eye contact with your partner and kiss them, it shows that you prioritize your relationship even during the busiest of mornings or evenings.”
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3. They’re not ashamed of PDA
PDA isn’t just for the young. No matter how long you’ve been together, public displays of affection should never be taboo. “It’s sappy and it grosses out the kids, but it works,” assures marriage therapist Aaron Anderson. “The happiest couples aren’t afraid to show affection to each other – even in public. So, go ahead and hold your spouse’s hand when you’re shopping in the mall or snuggle up to them when you’re at the movies with your friends. A little PDA can go a long way.”
4. They are optimistic together
Regardless of fights and disagreements, happy couples always find the good in the situation and, most importantly, in each other. They laugh together daily and give each other the benefit of the doubt. Trusting one another should be coupled with lifting each other up and being each other’s biggest cheerleader.
“It’s easy for a relationship to deteriorate into just talking about logistics, saving your funny anecdotes for your best friend or coworker,” warns Dr. Rodman. “This is a mistake. When couples get out of the habit of laughing together, their relationship is at risk of losing its joy and spirit.”
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Dr. Marie Land agrees: “When people are struggling in relationships it’s not unusual to feel that your partner is on a completely different team that you,” she tells HuffPost. “Remember that you are on the same team and that you both care about one another. Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt is a great strength in a happy relationship.”
5. Show your appreciation by saying or texting “thank you”
A simple expression of gratitude can go a long way. Because, at the end of the day, don’t we all love feeling valued and appreciated?
“My husband is really good at texting me little love messages throughout the day,” marriage and family therapist Lori Schade shares with Women’s Health. “We all know little things we can do that our partners would like, so couples can engage in any of these small behaviors to influence the environment in a relationship. As a therapist, I know that too often, people want to do something grandiose and then sit back and watch to see if their spouse “appreciates it,” and if they perceive that the spouse did not, they can justify not doing anything anymore. It helps more to make a list of small things your spouse would like and do those, so you aren’t keeping score all the time. Small gestures, big rewards.”
How about you, moms and dads? Let us know your daily habits of love with your hubby or wifey! We’d love to hear from you!
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