Is it okay to fight in front of kids? The answer is yes, but make sure you do it the right way. Read on to learn more.
As a parent, you want to do everything in your power to make your child feel as loved and as safe as possible. So you refrain from doing anything that would threaten their sense of security; this includes fighting with your spouse or partner.
This is an admirable trait in parents, but it’s also worth considering how research has shown that it is alright to fight in front of your kids. In some cases, it can even be beneficial to kids because it allows them to learn valuable life lessons that they would not otherwise learn if they are shielded from opportunities to witness conflict resolution.
In an article for the New York Times, Wharton University Psychology professor Adam Grant explains how teaching kids to hold their tongues when they disagree could be depriving them of the opportunity to learn “thoughtful disagreement.”
Parents should make sure to fight fair and to teach kids the importance of “thoughtful disagreement”
Kids need to learn that sharing your viewpoint, even if you disagree, is not always a bad thing. As long as there is still respect and civility, there is no reason why parents should not show kids how to resolve conflict in a healthy way.
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