Last January 3, 2015, a Facebook post written by Racedha H. Autor went viral. The post told of how her husband (whom she is separated from), lured her into his home in Pasig city and violently attacked her.
He went as far as threatening her with a gun and knife, despite the presence of their children and the woman’s stepmother.
Taken off of the victim’s Facebook account is Racedha’s story followed by several photos that show the brutality of the attack.
Tulungan niyo ako isa akong OFW umuwi ako sa pinas para makasama ang mahal ko sa buhay. Dumating ako last December 2 2014 sa pinas. Maayos naman ang paghihiwalay namin ng asawa ko na c JILVINSON BANDIVAS PAGALING noon December 23 2014. Kaso hindi nia bing at ang mga anak ko. Pero noon December 25 nga text xa sa akin na ihatid niya ang mga anak ko sa Caloocan city kung San don ako nakatira sa mama ko.sabi niya jan muna sau ang mga bata dahil ndi ako makakakilos dahil mghahanap daw xa ng work. Noon ikaw December 31 2014 nagtxt sya ulit na punta ka dto sa Pasig City Kenneth road mahogany St. Brgy pinagbuhatan Pasig City kung San sya nakatira. ANG sabi niya kailangan ng pirma mo dahil may buyer na sa car NAMIN VIOS plate no. UEI 209. Kinabukasan pumunta kami kasama ang mga anak ko.mama ko step father ko at stepmother ko papuntang Pasig. Pag ka dating namin pumasok kmi ng mga anak ko at ng stepmother ko. ANG mama ko at stepfather ko ndi bumaba nasa loob lng sila ng taxi. Pagpasok sa loob ng bahay ni JILVINSON BANDIVAS PAGALING. BGLA NYA PINALABAS ANG MGA ANAK KO AT STEPMOTHER KO. BGLA NIYA SINARADO ANG PINAPARATING KUNG SAN AKO NA LANG NA IWAN SA Loob ng sala sabay tanong niya sa akin na sure ka n ba ibenta ang car? Sabi ko KAYA NGA AKO NANDITO KASI NAG XT KA MAY BUYER NA. BGLA NIYA AKO SINONTOK SA MATT SABAY SAKAL SA LEEG KO AT SINONTOK ANG MUKHA KO NG PAULIT ULIT AT SA SIKMURA KO KAYA HINDI AKO NA KA LABAS DAHIL NANGHINA AKO BGLA NIYA HINABLOT BUHOK KO AT KINALADKAD PAPUNTA SA KUSINA KUNG SAN DON NIYA AKO PINASO SA MUKHA NG PAULIT ULIT AT TADYAK SA MGA LEGS KO. SABI NIYA SISIRAIN KO PAGMUMUKHA MO TINGNAN NATIN KUNG MAY MAPUPUNTAHAN KA! PAPATAYIN KITA AT TINUTOK NIYA ANG BARIL SA ULO KO. NANG BGLA NAKAPASOK ANG STEPMOTHER KO AT NAAWAT DON MAKATAKBO AKO NGUNIT NAKAPADLOCK ANG GATE DAHIL KASABWAT NIYA ANG KAPATID NIYA NA C JOEL FRANCIS KANG BANDIVAS PAGALING A.K.A AKACHI O BA LONG. NDI AKO NAKALABAS NG GATE KAYA NAABUTAN AKO NI JILVINSON BANDIVAS PAGALING AT KINUHA NYA ANG KUTSILYO SA LIKOD NYA SABAY TUTOK SA LEEG KO . HINARANGAN XA NG MGA ANAK KO. SABAY TINAWAG NYA C BALONG AT BINUKSAN ANG GATE.NAKALABAS AKO AT BITBIT KO MGA BATA PANAY IYAK. WALA SYANG PUSO KAHIT HARAPIN HARAPAN PA NG MGA ANAK NIYA ANG PANGBUBUGBOG SA AKIN.
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All photos taken from Racedha H. Autor’s Facebook account…
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Taken off of the victim’s Facebook page, the family asks that you contact them or local authorities if you have any information regarding the whereabouts of Jilvinson Badidas Pagaling.
No woman or man should have to go through what Racedha did. If you feel like you are in an abusive relationship or know someone who is, then get out of the relationship right away and take measures to ensure that this doesn’t happen to you.
Click “Next” for signs that you or a loved one may be in an abusive relationship.
Unfortunately not all marriages last and some fall apart at the hands of an abusive relationship.
Abusive relationships: different types and how to prevent them
Ageless wisdom tells us that marriage is a sacred union where two individuals vow to love and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. Some say that a strong marriage is the foundation for a strong family, and strong families build a strong society.
Some go as far as suggesting that marriage is a perfect setup for people to live harmoniously. But in reality, some marriages devastatingly crumble apart due to abusive relationships.
Women can be abusive just as much as men although statistics show that it is usually the women who come out as victims. Abusive relationships also happen regardless of age, socio-economic status and cultural background.
Abusers in a relationship exhibit behavior patterns that are meant to intimidate, dominate or coerce their partners. Abuse can be done not just through physical violence but through emotional acts as well.
Signs of Abuse in a Relationship
Victims of abuse are usually blinded from the reality of their situation. They are usually afraid of seeking help as they are hopeful that their spouse would still change.
Abusers are usually very good with words and often successful in convincing their victims that their possessiveness or jealousy is driven by love.
They can also make other excuses for their behavior such as a traumatic childhood experience, a bad day at work, or even the victim. Sadly, victims easily fall for these excuses.
No one deserves to go through pain even in the hands of a loved one. Recognizing that you are in an abusive relationship is the first step to breaking free from it.
The most common sign of abuse in a relationship is having an unhealthy fear of your partner. According to experts, abuse goes through a six-step cycle.
First, the abuse; then comes the feeling of guilt; after which comes the part where excuses are made. Then abusers will exhibit normal behavior to keep their victims.
When a victim is convinced that his or her spouse has changed, then the abuser starts fantasizing about starting the abuse again by making a lot of rationalizations.
Then, they plan another abuse, after which comes another set of abusive actions. The cycle just keeps on going that it is sometimes easy for victims to think that a spouse has changed when in fact the abuser is only going through the “normal behavior” part of the cycle.
Abusive relationships can involve both physical violence and emotional acts as well.
Forms of Abuse
Emotional Abuse
This happens when a husband or wife degrades, humiliates or manipulates his or her spouse using words or other emotional and psychological tactics. For example, a husband who abuses his or her wife emotionally can criticize everything she does or call her ugly names.
He will always try to make her feel wrong or inadequate. He can spy on all her activities and even forbid her from seeing any of her friends. In extreme cases, abusers can threaten to hurt themselves or other people.
The aim of this kind of abuse is to make a victim feel worthless and totally dependent on his or her spouse.
Physical Abuse
This kind of abuse occurs when an abuser uses physical actions such as hitting, slapping, punching, kicking or choking. All these acts are meant to threaten or hurt a victim to keep him or her under his control.
Physical abuse can also include sexual abuse where victims are forced to have sex or do sexual acts against their will.
This is usually done through physical force or by using drugs that can make victims fall unconscious. In some cases, sexual abuse is done by using psychological manipulation or coercion.
Financial Abuse
Since an abuser’s goal is to gain absolute control over all the decisions and actions of a victim, he or she can use money to do this.
Abusers can abuse their spouses financially by rigidly controlling their financial activities, sabotaging their jobs, making career-related decisions for them and stealing money from them.
In our culture, it is uncommon for married people, especially women, to come out against their spouses. If you are unsure whether you’re abused or not, most likely you are.
Immediately seek the help of a professional so you will know how to protect yourself from future abuse and leave the abusive relationship safely. Once you have decided to break free, healing can begin to happen in your life.
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