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7 Things you can do to make sure your kids aren't emotionally neglected

What are the signs of an emotionally neglected child, and what can parents do to make sure their kids aren't emotionally neglected?

What are the signs and causes of emotional neglect?

Emotional neglect can have a significant negative impact on your child. Emotional neglect can make your children feel unloved, uncared for, and unwanted.

What's more troubling about emotional neglect is the fact that sometimes, parents don't easily notice the signs that their child is being emotionally neglected. So, here are some of the signs of emotional neglect:

  1. Uncertainty about what they are capable of.
  2. Lack of self-confidence.
  3. Lack of compassion for themselves, but plenty of compassion for others.
  4. They feel flawed.
  5. They have a hard time feeling and expressing their emotions.

Emotional neglect can make your child feel that their feelings don't matter, and as they grow older, they will start bottling up their emotions, and grow up with feelings of negativity in their hearts.

One of the major causes of emotional neglect is that parents either don't have enough time to spend with their kids, or that they forget that they are dealing with a child, who looks at things differently compared to adults.

What can parents do to make sure their kids aren't neglected?

Here's a list of what you can do as a parent to make sure that your kids don't suffer from emotional neglect:

  1. Let your child know that you love them. Parents express their love for their child in different ways, but the most important thing would be that your child knows and acknowledges that you love and care for them.
  2. Acknowledge their feelings. If your child feels sad, frustrated, or angry, don't just brush it off and tell them that everything would be okay. Instead, it would be best if you acknowledged those feelings and let them know that it's okay to feel those things, since it happens to everyone. Make it a point to validate how they feel, but make sure that you talk to them to help them overcome those negative feelings and emotions.
  3. Make them feel confident. Confidence helps your child feel more emotionally stable and makes them less prone to feeling that they're not capable of doing things themselves.
  4. Teach them to love themselves. Parents should teach their children to love themselves for who they are and to not let anyone else make them feel otherwise. Let them know what they are capable of, and they will be better for it.
  5. Teach them compassion. Being compassionate helps your child feel for other people. This in turn, would help them become more in touch with their emotions and can make them feel better about themselves.
  6. Spend more time with your children. Nothing beats the quality time that parents spend with their kids. You don't have to do anything special, just talk to your children, tell them stories, share your experiences, and make them feel that you genuinely want to be with them and that you want to spend time with them.
  7. Eat together as a family. Whenever families eat together, it's a time for them to talk to each other, share their feelings, what happened in their day etc. So always make it a point to eat together as a family and use your time together to bond and to become one as a family.


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