Husbands, beware of these behaviors that could be wrecking your marriage!
You’ve probably heard over and over again that marriage is hard work, but it probably wasn’t until you were deep into it that you realized how true this is. It’s easy to let a marriage fall by the wayside, which is why both husbands and wives should do all they can to make their relationship better and stronger.
Though women also do these things, these behaviors are especially common with men. Avoid these destructive habits and save your marriage.
1. Not communicating
Because of their upbringing, men tend to have problems talking about their feelings. This makes it difficult to resolve conflicts—how can you solve them if you refuse to bring them up? Some men withdraw even more when communication is needed the most—something relationship researcher John Gottman labeled as “stonewalling”.
“The person who chooses to stonewall is no longer participating in self-reflection and subsequently personal growth,” psychologist Mary Spease tells PsychCentral. Instead of working to improve the relationship, people who refuse to communicate keep it from progressing. In addition, the person being stonewalled feels ignored and unimportant. This behavior leads to the building up of resentment, and often separation and divorce.
2. Neglecting her
Your wife married you because she wanted to spend time—the rest of her life—with you, as Paired Life points out. If you spend most of your day at the office, then blow off steam at a bar with coworkers, then go home only to space out in front of the television while you tune out your wife’s nagging to spend more time with the family, then that’s a sure sign that you’ve taken her for granted.
Don’t let your wife feel alone and abandoned. If you feel like your marriage isn’t how it should be, spend more time on it instead of checking out. Just as you should be your wife’s top priority, she should be yours as well.
On the next page: More marriage tips and behaviors to avoid.