Shortly after they tied the knot, Bing and her husband JC got the happy news that they were expecting their first child. The Abu Dhabi-based couple were thrilled. Bing was working as a ground staff for an international airline.
She was 35 weeks along when she got into a car accident which left her severely injured and caused the death of her unborn child.
In an interview with theAsianparent Philippines, Bing recounts how it happened: “My friend offered to drop me home from work, but unfortunately the accident happened. We were three in the car, but I was the only one who met a serious injury,” she told us, adding that the crash left her with a fractured jaw and arm.
Though her family and friends were pushing for an immediate C-section to save the baby’s life, the medical staff refused.
“First, because they already knew that my baby had died and secondly, it’ll be more risky for me as they also had to operate on my fractured arm and jaw,” explained Bing.
Instead, she was induced to have a normal delivery to give birth to her stillborn baby.
“When we knew that we were having a baby, my husband and I dedicated him to the Lord, knowing that our son is actually His,” recalled Bing, sharing that they planned to name their baby Winter Gabriel. In fact, they planned to name all their babies after the seasons, as reminders of God’s faithfulness through all the seasons of their lives.
Little did they know that the tragedy would carve a deeper meaning behind their second name choice.
“The meaning of Gabriel is ‘God is our strength’. True enough, Jesus has been our strength through the Winter season of our lives,” said Bing.
“It was so painful and it is still painful. We get by each day because of God’s grace and promises.”
“It was so painful and it is still painful,” she confided. Since it’s been only a few months since the accident, Bing draws strength from her faith and her loving husband who’s a full-time Christian pastor.
“We get by each day because of God’s grace and promises,” said Bing firmly, adding that there was a time when she did question God for the tragedy that befell her family.
“In my weakness I asked God—I asked him not because I doubted his goodness but I know that whatever I pour out to him he will understand—I asked Him why He allowed it to happen when he could have prevented it,” recounts Bing. “I know He could have, but his ways and thoughts are higher than ours.”
“I asked [God] why He allowed it to happen when he could have prevented it,” recounts Bing. “I know He could have, but his ways and thoughts are higher than ours.”
Before and after the accident, their faith prevailed, which is nothing short of inspiring.
She shared how, every night before bed prior to the accident she would talk to her baby, reassuring him that his mommy and daddy love him very much, but Jesus loves him even more.
“I always remind myself that even if I love him so much, Jesus loves him the most and that he’s safe and happier in Jesus’ arms,” said Bing, adding that it is in her faith in this truth from which she draws strength.
Her partner JC has comforted her through the darkest times, being her “hands and feet” as they went through the ordeal of losing their first child.
“He bathed me, fed me, put me to sleep and helped me in everything I needed,” marveled Bing, adding how he never left her side especially when she felt she couldn’t go on. “Though he’s hurting too, he kept on reminding me that God is always good and that he’s working something out in our lives. We just keep reminding each other that God is good. He is good, always.”
Be inspired by this original song, written by JC for their departed son Winter.
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