Mothers-in-law have had a long history of disagreement with their daughters-in-law, and there are a plethora of reasons for it.
Mothers-in-law have had a long history of disagreement and conflict with their daughters-in-law, and there are a plethora of reasons for it.
But if you’re a daughter-in-law, there are certain things that your mother-in-law should never do to you, whatever their intentions may be. Here are 10 of them, based from Amberlee Lovell’s Family Share article.
1. A mother-in-law should never correct your parenting
There’s a reason why you are the parent of your children and not her. She may disagree with your methods, but she has to know that you are responsible for your children, first and foremost.
2. A mother-in-law should never criticise you to her son
A marriage is between two people, and a mother-in-law has no part in it. Passing gossip to her son about you only harms your marriage. Instead of pointing out your criticism, she should instead find something good about you and cultivate it instead.
3. A mother-in-law should never tell you, “why don’t you try it this way?”
A mother-in-law should let their daughter-in-law make mistakes of their own. After all, the best way to learn is through experience.
4. A mother-in-law should never resent the time your family spends with her
Amberlee says: “Naturally [a mother-in-law wants] to spend time with [her] family, but it’s never appropriate to throw a fit, guilt trip or whine about the time [her] son spends with [you].”
5. A mother-in-law should never expect her son to put her first
Her son has a family now, and they will be on top of his priority list. She may find offense that she is no longer the no. 1 woman in your husband’s life, but she should learn to live with this fact.
She should also never make her son choose between her and you. Never.