A large majority of mothers will attest that giving birth was and still is one of the most difficult and exhilarating experiences they have ever had.
Pregnant women go through so many changes, aside from the obvious ones. The one that we can see generally is the physical changes—which are by the way obvious by glancing at a pregnant woman. During pregnancy and postpartum stage, we go through mental and emotional changes as well that can really mess us.
Some men who do not understand these changes frequently criticize these discrepancies in their female partners. Due to the fact that they are unable to fully understand what is happening to their partners, it becomes so typical that women may feel melancholy and rejected.
Therefore, it’s crucial for young mothers to frequently interact with more seasoned mothers so they may share experiences and realize there’s nothing wrong with them.
Two years after losing my first child, I had my rainbow baby and it completely changed my life. It was a time that was both extraordinarily beautiful and quite emotionally challenging. This is what I would advise mothers if I could share my two years of experience with them.
Throughout your pregnancy and even after birth, you could experience unexpected and varied forms of grief, and that’s okay. During my first trimester, but especially before my first appointment, I struggled with anxiety.
After ng nauna, hindi ko inakala na posible pala na magcarry ako ng bata na mabubuhay.
I became more at ease after hearing the heartbeat and finishing the first trimester, making it simpler for me to allow myself to think about holding the baby.
You need your friends and family’s prayers and support more than you know. My friends and family were familiar with my previous experience.
For me, being able to express and discuss my feelings with them was crucial. Particularly during those early months, they were a huge support to me.
And knowing that, no matter what happened to the baby, people were praying for me and walking with me gave me the strength to continue.
To all moms who are expecting after an infant loss, accept the happy times and try to appreciate how beautiful each day of being pregnant is.
When fear knocks—and it will—remember that it is normal and hold onto hope. Keep going!