Is it normal to have doubts about your marriage?

You might have had moments that made you think twice about your marriage, but is it really a bad thing to have doubts about your marriage?

Have you ever asked yourself the question: "Did I really make the right decision to marry my husband?"

If you answered yes, then don't feel scared. It's totally normal to feel that way, and a lot of couples do in fact have doubts about their relationship at one point or another.

You're not alone

Having doubt about your relationship is normal behavior. It stems from the fact that up until the point that you got married, you were your own person, and you were in control of the things that you were doing, your decisions, and your choices in life.

Once you get married however, you're suddenly faced with the reality that you will be spending the rest of your life with another person. And while you're still your own person, your decisions now have an added responsibility, and you can't just do whatever you want, whenever you want.

Being married thrusts you into an entirely different world, and even if you've thought about it, you can't really prepare for that kind of responsibility, you just have to handle it.

Healthy doubt is actually good

The good thing about doubt is that you're thinking about your relationship with your spouse, and how to make it better.

Simply disregarding such thoughts can sometimes be harmful since it prevents you from working on the problems in your relationship.

Stuart Wolpert shares, "If you see something unusual on your skin, should you ignore it and go to the beach, or see a doctor? Be smart and don't ignore it — and don't ignore your doubts either. Have a conversation and see how it goes. Do you think the doubts will go away when you have a mortgage and two kids?"

Talk it through

Now, in case you feel doubts in you relationship, by far the best thing that you can do would be to talk it through with your spouse.

Communication is extremely important in any relationship, and talking things through to work on your problems as a couple does help a lot when it comes to improving your marriage.

And on the other hand, it's just as important for you to listen to your spouse if they're the ones who are having doubts in your relationship. Don't take it against you if they say that they're having doubts, instead, make it an opportunity to make yourself better and work on your relationship.


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