Why it is okay to leave toxic person even if they are your family
A lot of people experience toxic people and we can mostly tolerate them as they are not related to you, but if that toxic person is a family member?
A lot of people experience toxic people and we can mostly tolerate them as they are not related to you, but if that toxic person is a family member? How would you handle it? Here are some reasons why it is okay to leave or at least have a little space from them.
You don’t need controlling
It’s your life and most of the time they will do anything to force you to do thing their may. I know a lot of parents do this to their children specially when they a little, but not when they are 30. I mean you can listen to what they say, but not to the point that they will let you will feel worthless and that your decision always sucks.
You don’t need the “always right” mentality from them
May kasabihan ang elder na “Papunta ka palang, pabalik na ako” but this does not apply always. I mean we can make mistakes and learn from it and learn on how we cannot make that mistake again, but most toxic people will tell you “Tama, ako, diba?” with pride pa ha?
You don’t need to feel that they are always the victim
Most toxic people I know always feels they are the victim of all the circumstances that they made. They will make you feel that everything that’s happening is your fault.
You don’t need someone who will put you down when you are already down there
You may think that they are helping you in some sort of ways, but they are not. They will pull you even harder and when you can’t do it anymore then, they’ll be more be happy about it.
I have a lot of reasons why, but I’ll end it on number four. I just feel that I need or we need to feel that we are controlling and taking over our lives. I know not everyone will agree to me about giving space to our parents or even our children, but I never been happy and peaceful until I gave that break to myself. You’ll need it to be sane in this crazy world.