An open letter to my in-laws who love my husband's first wife more than me
I'm not trying to replace her, no one can. I'm just trying to be the partner he deserves. I love him and I hope one day, you can truly accept me as part of the family.
To my in-laws, I know no one can replace her. Not only was she my husband's first wife, she was like a daughter to you. I understand this. But I hope you understand where I'm coming from.
You see, ever since your son and I exchanged vows, I made a promise that I would love his whole family, especially you two. After all, you are my in-laws. What I wasn't prepared for was that having this love reciprocated would prove to be a challenge.
I admire his first wife, actually, she was smart, kind, beautiful, and caring. If we had met, we would have probably been friends. Is it weird that I, too, find myself mourning her loss at times?
I see her daily in the eyes of her daughter; I am almost certain her son has her smile. Based on the stories I've heard, I've found myself aspiring to be the kind of mom she was. I'd like to strive to continue her legacy and to make her see that I truly love and care for her children. I want to see them grow and succeed. I want to help build a home where they will feel safe and loved.
I want to be a great partner, a good stepmother, but I can't fully do this without your blessing and wisdom, mom and dad. Please don't get me wrong, I respect the love and trust you built as a family long before I came into the picture. I don't want to erase the memories and the happy times you've shared nor do I plan on forcing you to love me. I just want to be given the chance to be part of the new chapter in your story--in our story. All I'm asking is to be given a space to show this family the love and care that you all deserve.
I'm not trying to replace her, no one can. I'm just trying to be the partner he deserves. I love him and I hope one day, you can truly accept me.
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