Our parenting journey and advice
Sabi nga nila there are no manuals no being a parent. My child, my rules policy. Pero, wala din namang nagsasabi na madali ang pagiging magulang.
It was clearly written in the Bible, that parents should discipline and teach their child so they may grow in the same path as Jesus. Having this line in the book means, being a parent will never be easy.
My husband and I are very aligned on the values, we want our child to have. Kindness, generosity and God fearing are our top 3 priorities.
Why? Kasi for us, having these 3 morals as their basic foundation will make the world a better place to live in.
Walang nagturo sa amin on how we will instill those to our daughters. We just try to be an example. What the children see, that is what they absorb and resemble, ika nga. What they see on their parents while they grow up, lalo na sa developing years nila, possible is, 'yon din ang makuha nila.
We had different advises from our parents. May mga gumana, pero marami ring hindi. Maybe some of them are already outdated, but you know, it is not how old the advise were, but is it still applicable to your children?
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"I was diagnosed with Placenta Previa Marginalis—na both fatal to the mommy and the baby."
"When I got miscarriage. Gumaling ang PCOS ko and after 6 months.. I got pregnant again."
I taught having a newborn is the difficult stage of all. The whining, crying, lack of sleep, etc. Pero hindi pala!
Ang pinakamahirap is when the child is already asking a thousand of questions everyday! Challenge ang sagutin ang sandamakmak na tanong, na hindi ka maiinis at mapapaintindi mo sa kanya ang lahat ng hindi maapektuhan ang values na gusto mo makuha niya.
There are times na tayong mga magulang, we tend to be irritated. Lalo na pag wala ng sense ang ibang tanong ng mga bata. But, there are proper ways on how to deal with it. I learned, na kapag nag-start na magpaulit-ulit ng tanong ang bata, at wala ng sense ang iba, you can start asking them the same question and try to let them figure out it on their own. In that way, the child can process ideas on his brain and eventually, they will think, before they ask.
We still have a long journey.
I can see that my preschooler is very independent and strong. A good trait that my toddler is imitating. Nakakatuwa lang dahil kung ano ang activity ni ate, siya din naman ang ginagawa ni bunso. Mukhang mga matitibay at matitikas na babae na hindi papatalo, but with hearts full of compassion and love.
My colleague once said, nasa madali pa daw ako na stage. Pag nasa preteen or teenage years na sila, doon ko daw masasabi na ang hirap talagang maging magulang! From there, I understand her right on the spot. Naalala ko din kung gaano katigas ang ulo ko noong teenager pa ako!
Naalala ko agad ang tatay ko, how I tell him lies just to go somewhere or how I acted that I am sick just to skip classes. Grabe!
Sabi ko, wag naman sana makuha ng mga anak ko ang kalokohan ko noon! That is why my father was very happy when I got married at ang palagi niyang sinasabi sa akin, "Panapanahon lang yan! Now, it is your turn!" It was his way on making me remember my past "kalokohan". Truly, makes me scared all the time! LOL!
I believe that, it is the parents responsibility, sa klase ng mga tao ang maninirahan sa mundo. The one who molds and teaches. Kung dumami man ang masasamang tao sa mundo balang araw, parents should blame theirselves for raising one and I think that it is fair.
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