"Less ang problema kung nagsimula kayo ng tama." Hanggang ngayon, ito pa din ang paborito kong advise sa lahat ng mga narinig ko.
Unusual ang scenario paano kami nagkakilala ng asawa ko. We met through his brother, which was my co-worker at my previous company.
We unintentionally met dahil sa isang iphone game na "DOORS". A tricky mind game which will need you to find clues and get the key to every doors para maka-proceed ka sa next level. I accidentally loved and kill the game and halos buong office hours nasa akin ang mobile ni in-law.
But without knowing, si "future husband" pala was the only one playing the game when they had the chance to meet sa house ni in-law after office hours. He was quite disappointed and a little outraged to see palagi na 'yung level he was in before, na pass ko na ng malayo bago dumating ulit sa kanya 'yung mobile phone. Hehe.
During also that time, hubby has already facing issues with his ex-girlfriend and my in-laws are already telling him to stop the relationship as it was already very toxic and giving him too much stress. Which little did I know, na ang brother in-law ko ay pinapakilala na ako paunti-unti sa kaniya and vice versa.
Honestly, from the stories I heard pa lang, I started to like him.
Si kuya ang naging bridge namin. I was also single for 2 years that time, as I came from a really traumatic relationship. Maraming nanliligaw pero sabi ko, ayaw ko na muna mag boyfriend. Kung hindi rin naman siya iyong mapapangasawa ko. Ayoko na mag-waste ng maraming emotional effort.
So, I made a promise to myself and prayed really hard to God. I prayed for signs. Sabi ko, if isa sa mga manliligaw ko dinalan ako ng "any type of kakanin basta ayaw ko ng chocolate", because I easily get tonsillitis. Kaya ever since hindi ko na talaga gusto ang chocolates at candies. Eto na ito, siya na!
Fast forward, in-law gave him my number. I waited from the day kuya told me to wait for his text. After 2 days and I can still remember that day, it was Sunday and we just finished of our Sunday church service, he texted me "Hi!". Malakas na ang pakiramdam na ko na siya na iyon.
Pero I still want to make sure, so I replied, "Sino po sila?". Then there started everything.
We browsed each others facebook and I saw what he looked like, medyo disappointed ako kasi hindi gaanong pogi. Pero maraming beses na pala na niyang bina-browse at i-istalk fb ko.
Judgement day came! He will visit me sa bahay to formally meet tatay. Eto na rin ang araw na malalaman ko kung eto na ba talaga 'to. Mixed emotions ako kasi sa kaniya ako nag-exert ng time and effort compared sa iba. Kung chocolates or candies or bulaklak dadalhin niya meaning, hindi pa siya ang nakalaan ni God para sa akin.
Dumating siya sa bahay at ang dala ay cassava cake! Wala na, finish na!
Sabi ko kay Lord, napakagaling mo talaga at hindi mo ako pinabayaan. Akala ko hindi na darating ang oras na may makakapagdala ng signs na hingi ko. Nakakatawa lang pag naalala ko reason ni hubby noon, na kaya iyon ang dala niya is because kulang daw yong pera niya pambili sana ng cake.
I always tell him na, "Magpasalamat ka dahil nagkulang ang pera mo, dahil kung cake ang dala mo, hindi ikaw ang asawa ko!" Madaming temptations before na made me not wait for the signs I prayed. Pero if you really wait and trust Him sa prayers mo, hindi ka Niya ife-fail.
Nakakalungkot lang isipin na maraming mag-asawa ang naghihiwalay na ang reason ay na-fall out of love sila, they were cheated on or they found something sa partner nila na they didn't know before they got married.
For me, if you prayed really hard for your partner, never will you have these reasons. Kasi the Lord will help you make a choice bago ka pa mapasubo sa isang relation na mahihirapan ka na makaalis.
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