If you want your kids to grow up healthy, happy, and respectful, make sure to avoid these 7 parenting mistakes!
Parenting isn't easy, and it's okay to make a few mistakes here and there. However, here are 10 parenting mistakes that you should never make!
People need a routine, it's in our nature to follow a specific routine that would help keep us on track when it comes to the things we do everyday. When it comes to children, having a routine and being consistent with parenting can help give your kids a sense of security as well as teach them self-discipline.
Exposing your child to too much negativity
"Parenting" behavior such as shouting at your child, always showing disapproval, or even hurting them emotionally and physically are things that you should never do as a parent.
These things can traumatize your child, and confuses them since this type of emotional behavior takes away from teaching your child and your child might not understand why you're angry at them in the first place, which leads to more problems and confusion down the road.
Fighting in front of your kids
As a child, there might have been a few moments where you might have seen your parents fighting, or you might have seen other couples fighting and arguing. Can you remember how it made you feel? It feels terrible to see people fight right? It's way worse if your kids see you and your spouse fighting.
While fights are unavoidable, as much as possible, you should try to keep the discussion civil, and don't do it in front of your kids. Your kids will know if you're upset, and they might internalize that negativity, or even blame themselves for your actions.
Giving in too much to your child
Even if you want to have a good relationship with your child, boundaries are very important. Boundaries help teach your child responsibility, and lets them understand that they can't always have or do whatever they want.
While it's okay to give in to your child's whims every so often, it shouldn't be done each and every time. It'll make you feel that your child is spoiled and it can even harm their social development.
Not being there for your child
Let's face it, sometimes work gets in the way of being a parent. And that's totally fine, but you need to make sure that your child knows that you love them, and you spend quality time with them as much as possible.
Sometimes, it's okay to skip work and go to your child's recital, or go with them to the beach. Your child's development and your relationship with your kids is very important.
Setting bad examples
Just like everyone else, parents aren't perfect. However, that's not an excuse for parents to set bad examples for their children.
If you have bad habits like smoking, cursing a lot, or being rude to other people, you should make it a point to fix those types of behavior so that you can set a good example for your kids. It won't only benefit your kids in the long run, but it will also help you make a positive change in your life.
Being too overprotective
Parents always want their kids to be safe. And it's totally normal for a mom or dad to be worried when their kid goes home late, or even forgets to send them a text message to tell them how they're doing.
However, sometimes parents just have to learn to trust their kids and know that they can handle themselves. The mark of a good parent is when your child learns how to become independent, yet still respects and follows the things that you teach them. As a parent, that should be your goal in mind.
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