Pregnancy sex guide for dads
Pregnancy sex guide for dads: Contributing writer Ron Afable shares how he and his wife's sex life changed after she got pregnant.
It’s been 2 years since you’ve tied the knot.
You’re still madly in love with your wife, and look forward to spending every waking minute of the weekend in bed, appreciating her beautiful body.
You love cuddling in bed with her, taking showers together and making love as often as possible. Life seems perfect.
Then all of a sudden, before you know it, your wife, your sex goddess, is about to become your baby’s mama!
She’s suddenly cranky all the time, and getting rounder and rounder by the day. You still desire her, but you’re not sure how to ‘move forward,’ so to speak.
Will she swat you like a fly if you make any advances? Or, God forbid, will you hurt your unborn baby if you actually manage to get to third base?
The way you’re feeling is normal, I assure you. I had my fair share of questions the first time my wife got pregnant!
Which is why I’ve come up with this ‘pregnancy sex guide’ of sorts for all you dads out there! Hopefully, it will help you (and your wife) have a wonderful journey — without being ‘sexually deprived’!
(Before we move on thought, please take note that this should not and does not serve as professional medical advice. It’s still best for you and your wife to consult a doctor if you have any questions related to her pregnancy.)
Is it safe for her to have sex?
Yes, for the most part! However, if for some reason, the wife has some misgivings about her health, it is always a good idea to consult with your doctor. If he says no, ask him to be specific about the reason.
Besides your doctor’s warnings, there are also other situations when you can and should not have sex with your pregnant wife. While these considerations would be common sense to most people, it remains practical to still point out the obvious, such as:
- Your wife has a history of miscarriage or premature birth
- The placenta is covering the cervix (this is called placenta previa in medical terms)
- Your wife’s water/amniotic sac has broken
- Your wife is having bleeding problems
- Your (or your wife’s) religious belief or cultural upbringing about sex during pregnancy says it’s a no-no (if ever there is such a thing)
- Either you or your wife has a sexually transmitted disease
Will she want to have sex?
Well, that really depends on your wife’s personality. But judging from what I’ve experienced with my wife, some women would still want steamy, mind-blowing episodes with the Mr. even when she’s fully ‘bloated.’
How will it feel?
At first, sex during the wife’s pregnancy could be awkward, or even comical.
However, you’d probably soon find that a giggle here and a burst of stifled snorting laughter there could actually add fun to the adventure. You see, it’s either your wife’s so huge or/and both of you are afraid you’d hurt the baby.
Anyway, the first order of the day would be to experiment and try new positions that would work for the both of you. So if you haven’t been that adventurous with your love-making before, this is a very good time to start!
Let me give you a tip though… The first thing you will probably find out is that the missionary position is what both of you would want to avoid, for fear of squashing the baby. So be creative!
Here are some positions you could try
Wife on top – While some men may complain that they feel helpless when the woman is on top and is the one in control, this position works best during pregnancy as your wife can control how deeply you penetrate her. She is also in control of how fast or slow the session will be.
On all-fours – This is sometimes referred to as“doggy-style.” During the early stages of pregnancy, this could actually be one of the most preferred positions as the wife does not have to exert much effort and there is no direct pressure on the tummy.
However, when the wife’s belly becomes bigger, it will be heavier and it might get pressed against the bed or pressed between her legs and upper torso. As long as she can keep her belly raised, this will work for a short time before you switch to another position.
Spooning – This could be one of the most erotic and sensual positions lovers could have. The woman sits in front of the man who is also in a seated position. There is no pressure on the stomach, and the man could reach in front for added stimulation to his partner’s erogenous zones.
Lying on one side – This position frees the woman’s back from pressure, and the tummy is safely supported on its side.
With one of the woman’s legs raised, the man could enter from either behind or he can be positioned perpendicularly (like a letter “T” position) and penetrate while facing her. This could be a tricky position at first but once you get the hang of it, you’d find that this is less strenuous for both of you.
If, for some reason, you can’t do any of the above, the simple but very intimate mutual stimulation of your partner’s sex organ would probably do the trick.
Whatever the case, just remember to enjoy yourself, and spend time appreciating each other both physically and emotionally.
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