Quiz: Do you have a healthy relationship?

Do you have a healthy relationship?

You have a healthy relationship!

You have a good thing going on.

You have some problems, but they can be fixed.

You might be in an abusive relationship.

My spouse is very supportive of the things that I do.

Yes

No

For the most part yes.

In some ways. But I wish that my partner supported me more.

My spouse encourages me to try out new things all the time

Yes

No

Yes, but not all the time.

Maybe a couple of times.

My spouse listens intently whenever I have something on my mind.

Always

Never

Not always, but my spouse does his or her best.

Only if my spouse isn’t busy.

My partner understands that I have my own life too.

Yup, my partner gives me time to do some things for myself.

Not at all.

Yup, though my partner can be a bit clingy sometimes.

I always have to ask permission from my partner whenever I go out.

Most of my friends don’t like my partner.

Yup, I even think that they like him more than me sometimes!

No, they actually avoid each other.

My partner isn’t close with all of my friends, but my friends don’t dislike him.

A few of my friends like my partner. The rest, not so much.

My spouse says I’m too involved in many activities.

No, my spouse actually is the one telling me that I need to do more activities!

All the time, yeah. We fight about it a lot too.

Sometimes, but that’s just because my spouse wants to spend more quality time with me.

My spouse sometimes says that, and it’s also the reason for some of our fights.

My spouse texts me and calls me all the time.

Not all the time, but when my spouse does, he sends me cute messages to say hi.

All of the time; sometimes it feels like my spouse is too paranoid, and we even fight about it.

My spouse checks up on me daily.

Sometimes, but usually I text my spouse so he knows my plans.

My partner often tells me that I spend too much time trying to look nice.

Nope. My spouse usually tells me that I always look good.

Yes, but I only do it because my spouse doesn’t make me feel good about myself.

Sometimes, but usually my spouse just like to joke around.

My spouse tells me that every so often.

My partner can get extremely jealous or possessive.

Not at all. My partner trusts me completely.

My spouse often gets jealous, and we fight about it all the time.

Sometimes, but usually my spouse is just trying to be cute.

Yes, and sometimes it escalates to fights.

My spouse accuses me of flirting, or cheating.

Nope, not at all. My spouse trusts me completely.

Yeah, my spouse often accuses me of being unfaithful.

Sometimes, but I think it’s normal for people to think that way.

Relatively often. It’s also one of the causes for our fights.

My spouse constantly checks up on me, or makes me check in.

Only when I’m on a business trip, or if I forget to tell him that I had plans.

My spouse asks me to check in with him everyday. It feels restrictive.

Sometimes, but not frequently.

My spouse asks me to check in sometimes, and we usually fight about it since I feel that he does not trust me.

My partner always tries to control what I do and who I see.

Not at all. My partner just asks where I’m going and he tells me to have fun.

Yes. My partner tells me when I can see my friends.

My partner tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.

Nope. My spouse is very close with my family and friends.

Yes, my spouse doesn’t want me to go out with my friends or see my family.

Sometimes yes. Especially when my partner gets jealous of the time I spend with my friends and family.

My spouse makes me feel like no one else would want me.

Not at all. My spouse makes me feel happy and confident about myself.

All the time. It makes me depressed sometimes.

Sometimes my spouse does that.

My partner often yells, screams, or humiliates me in front of other people.

Not at all. I can’t even remember a time that my partner yelled at me.

My partner does that a lot.

My partner has done it once or twice, but he said sorry and apologized to me about it.

He doesn’t do it a lot, but when he does it, he never apologizes.