Though cheating is the kiss of death for many marriages, infidelity is just one of the reasons women leave their husbands.
Husbands who stray often blame their infidelity on a lack of intimacy with their wives. They may have unmet needs or deep-seated issues that hinder their ability to stay faithful. But women have different needs and when unmet, it can drive them to just decide to end things, no matter how patient they are.
Here are some of the most common reasons wives want to call it quits.
1. Being emotionally disconnected
Emotional intimacy is important for women, at times even more so than the physical connectedness. They long for the feeling of companionship, of having a confidante. Women and men both have emotional needs, but women are more likely to crave deep conversation and attention.
2. Financial woes
When it comes to financial problems, it isn’t just a lack of funds that can cause tension. For many women, being compatible when it comes to spending and saving habits is important. Money management should not be taken for granted.
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3. Incompatible conflict resolution
Couples do not always have to agree on everything, but to make a marriage work, they must at least learn to agree to disagree. They must have ways to resolve conflict that are healthy and not hurtful. For instance, if one wants to talk about an issue while the other becomes evasive and withdrawn, it can weaken a couple’s bond over time.
4. Differing commitment levels
When the husband is not as invested in building a home and raising kids, it can cause the wife to feel undervalued. Situations vary, but the common things with those unwilling to commit is that they are always looking outside the relationship for fulfillment.
“These women feel they carry the weight of the relationship, do most of the emotional work and constantly have to find new and novel things to do to keep the relationship alive,” psychologist Kristin Davin tells the Huffington post.
5. Controlling or Abusive behavior
When a husband becomes hostile or overly dominant, then many women would decide to opt out of the marriage. Abusive behavior doesn’t happen overnight. So it’s best to spot the signs before it’s too late.
If you notice any of the aforementioned problems brewing in your marriage, it’s time for you to communicate this with your spouse. Be sure to approach the issue cautiously. At the end of the day, it’s always best to fight for a relationship, but if it has become abusive, then you owe it to yourself to seek help or get out and try to start to heal somehow.
sources: Family Share, Power of Positivity, The Huffington Post
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