In order to improve any relationship, we need to have an open mind and an even more open heart. The internet is rife with marriage advice from the experts as well as wisdom shared by married couples based on their own experiences.
But sometimes it’s those unconventional tips, which may sound a bit odd at first, that really–and surprisingly–work.
Here are a few:
1. Don’t put your kids first
Though we love our kids, some pyschologists and relationship experts believe that they should not come before our spouse.
This will not only benefit you both but it will show your kids—by example—what a strong relationship looks like.
Making sure you are both secure and not emotionally drained allows you to be more present for your kids.
2. Know when to keep silent
Sometimes a good timeout is just what you need when things get heated. Not all relationship problems should be solved immediately.
There’s a time to speak and a time to step back.
3. Text like you only just met
Throughout the busy work day of answering e-mails and calls, messaging them out of the blue can work wonders in keeping your relationship fresh.
Even simply asking what your partner wants for dinner can show them how much you care.
This will make you feel closer and part of each other’s day, no matter how busy you both are.
4. Don’t be complacent that they’ll stick with you
Don’t make the mistake of being lulled into being lax with your relationship.
Thinking that whatever you say or do won’t drive them away can be dangerous. Often, couples are blindsided by infidelity and other marital problems they didn’t see coming.
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Operating on cruise control isn’t always safe. Always be mindful of the twist and turns to avoid a fatal crash.
5. Write each other’s eulogies
This may sound a bit morbid but this can prove to be a good exercise in showing appreciation for your spouse.
When a person passes on, people tend to look back and highlight their best traits.
Why not do this for one another? Write down their best qualities along with your favorite moments with them.
Take turns reading each other’s eulogies, and add on to them as you go along. This will bring you closer, for sure.
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