Did you know there’s a wrong way to raise a strong child? Find out what it takes to prepare your child to be great in the outside world!
Well-intentioned parents just want to prepare their children for greatness, but many are going about it the wrong way. Professionals are already speaking out against overparenting or helicopter parenting, which involves hovering over one’s children to prevent them from failing. Ironically, it’s been linked to worsening school performance and making the children unemployable.
Does a better alternative exist – one that will help us raise #strongnotsheltered kids who will thrive when they encounter real world challenges? Here’s how to correctly prepare them for the future.
Start by establishing a strong foundation
It doesn’t matter how tall a tree is if a strong gust of wind will just make it fall. A good foundation will help children weather future storms, which will come whether they’re prepared or not.
The key is to begin with values. Being a role model is the best way to teach goodness, patience, humility, courage, and all the other virtues because children imitate what they see. Real life situations provide the perfect teachable moments so bring them with you when you do your errands or meet up with your friends. When a child is rooted in goodness, then great fruits such as strength of character will follow.
Resilience is one value that’ll help your child overcome setbacks. Instead of always putting on a brave face, allow your children to see you struggle. Irma Aure, 41, HR leader of a multi-national company’s operations here in the Philippines and mom of 2 shares, “Show them how you deal with disappointments and come out stronger.” Seeing you handle difficult experiences with grace and fortitude will help them deal with their own challenges in the future like failing to make the team or not passing a job interview.
Enrolling your child in a school or class with a good values education curriculum is also a good way to reinforce these lessons. Same-age friends who are taught the same values can positively influence each other and discourage offensive or errant behavior. The role of friends become even more important when they become teenagers so take the time to get to know who belongs to your child’s barkada (group of friends).