Why do people cheat even if they're in a happy marriage?
There are many reasons why a partner or spouse would cheat and, surprisingly, it usually has nothing to do with being unhappy.
According to marriage therapist Aaron Anderson, many of the couples who seek help from him say "they never saw it coming".
This false sense of security can be lethal. Believing that just because it's smooth sailing, nothing can touch your bond can pose many risks.
Anderson says that one of the most common misconceptions is that only people in unhappy marriages cheat.
Surprisingly, he said, most of his patients who've had affairs say that they still truly love their spouse, kids, and their life in general.
So, why would a happy person cheat?
Many people cheat because of some inadequacy or personal failure
They may be harboring past issues and insecurities that seep into their present happiness, causing them to seek gratification elsewhere.
An example Anderson cited was a person who is an overachiever at work to make up for his shortcomings as a spouse.
They don't address the situation; they just pretend that everything is fine and remain in denial.
This is often the root of affairs: sweeping things under the rug, putting up a perfect facade, when in truth there are deep-seated issues that need to be confronted and fixed.
Needing fulfilment, finding it in secrecy
Seeking validation and a way to release their regrets, frustrations, and insecurities, they try to find ways to voice out their true feelings.
They go on living a "superficially happy" life while their deeper issues remain unresolved.
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How can a marriage be cheating-proof?
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