There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship; every relationship has its flaws and shortcomings. But how do you know if these flaws and shortcoming are normal and not indicative of something insidious that lies underneath?
In her Family Share article, Georgia Lee explores the seven subtle signs that you may be in the wrong relationship.
1. Friends and family
If your significant other shows no interest in the people you’re closest with and generally doesn’t make an effort to get to know them, then you should take this as a sign—especially if he skips even on special occasions and gatherings. Friends and family are an extension of yourself, which means your partner should also be able to at least get along with them.
2. Quality time
Spending time with your partner is crucial in that it allows both parties to get to know each other on a deeper level. It also keeps the passion and romance alive, which is an important ingredient in a successful relationship.
3. General disinterest
The simple act of asking your partner questions like, “how are you?” and “what are you up to?” may not seem significant, but when left unsaid, according to Georgia, it can speak volumes.
“If he doesn’t ask how you’re doing, what’s going on with you, or especially how you’re feeling, he’s just not interested in your life anymore. And he’s no longer the guy for you.”
4. Silent treatment
“If you and your beau can no longer hold basic conversations, your union is in trouble. Again, it sounds trite, but saying ‘hi’ and ‘bye’ and finding out what’s going on in the other’s day or life is nourishing to a relationship. Without it, it starts to die.”
5. Unsupported
If your friends and family don’t like your partner, then that may be a sign that you’re with the wrong person.
“There is something they don’t like about the way you and your partner get along, treat each other or bring out in the other,” Georgia says. “If you don’t have support from the people you love and respect the most, and you normally trust their judgment, they might be on to something.”
6. Wandering eyes
If either you or your partner often find yourself looking at other people, or often start yearning for things that only other people can give you, then it’s a sign that there are needs that aren’t being met. “If either of you can’t seem to keep your attention squarely within the relationship, there’s been a loss of focus that may not be recovered,” says Georgia.
7. Easy street
“You’re not with the right guy if he feels like he doesn’t need to put any work into the relationship,” Georgia says. “Once coasting (not ghosting) kicks in, it’s hard to kick a lazy mate into gear and get him back to his hardworking self. Especially if you’ve allowed him to sit back and take a breather.”
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