If you feel like you’re not connected to your partner as you used to be, you don’t have to put all your efforts into grand, sweeping gestures to remedy this! Start simple and be more observant of the little things, because they can often make the most difference.
Just because you have less time for one another, and your daily routine seems to leave little room for romance, don’t worry that the passion is no longer there. Dr. Terri Orbuch, psychologist and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, urges us not to believe the “relationship myth” we often see relationships as depicted in movies; it’s not always passionate or urgent, sometimes it takes effort to bring it back.
Due to your busy schedules, you and your spouse might not be able to spend quality time together aside from when you’re getting ready for bed.
Add these bedtime routines to your daily life to strengthen your marriage in a simple and effective way.
1. Sync up your bedtimes
Going to bed at the same time gives you both the opportunity to connect physically or emotionally. If you watch TV long after your husband or wife has fallen asleep, you could miss the chance to meaningfully bond with them after a long day at work.
Of course, there will be some exceptions. Say, you or your spouse works the night shift and you can’t possibly go to bed at the same hour, a way to bridge this is to make sure you find time to share at least a meal together every day.
2. Disconnect from gadgets to reconnect
Being hooked on electronics doesn’t just harm your health, they can also negatively affect our relationships. Try talking about your day in depth without the distraction of gadgets. Don’t be afraid to have deep and meaningful conversations. Think of your bed as a safe space, free of judgment. Be open and listen to each other sincerely. You’ll be surprised at what you’ll feel if you’re not distracted by a screen every few seconds.
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3. Build anticipation throughout the day
While you’re apart during the day, send each other texts or love messages, with promises of a romantic night. Even if it’s just a simple date at home with a good movie and popcorn, building anticipation makes it special. Let your spouse know they are on your mind throughout the day.
4. Seduce your spouse
It can be simple “hot notes” or whispering seductive compliments even before you enter the bedroom. It’s important to keep wooing your husband or wife. Consistently making them feel wanted will do wonders in deepening your level of intimacy.
5. Make out like you’re forever young
Kissing and cuddling, even without it leading to anything else, is a romantic bedtime routine that shouldn’t be taken for granted. Explore new ways to pamper your partner with loving touches and caresses.
READ: 5 Types of sex that will reignite the passion in your marriage
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