So, ladies… have you found yourself canoodling with your partner when all of a sudden, you feel as though a certain part of your body gets electrified? And you have no idea why. That’s because he may have just unlocked what’s known as an erogenous zone.
You’d be surprised to know that your body is home to many of such zones or “sweet spots”. And if you think that the best ways to orgasm are through stimulating your vagina and clitoris, then what you’re going to read next is definitely going to be mind-blowing.
What Is An Erogenous Zone?
“An erogenous zone is anywhere on the body that has a heightened sensitivity and can elicit a sexual response when stimulated,” explains a sex and relationship expert, Jane Greer, Ph.D.
From a light caress to applying firm pressure and vibration on these “sweet spots”, it can turn the heat up from 0 to 100 fairly quickly.
But it all depends. The feeling you get could be different, depending on which “sweet spot” is stimulated. And this is so exciting!
In the assessment of 30 healthy women as part of a study that was published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, it was found that with a light touch, certain areas such as the “neck, forearm, and vaginal margin are most sensitive, and areola least sensitive”.
When pressure or vibration was applied, however, areas like the “clitoris and nipple” are the “most sensitive”.
Identifying where it works the best for you is important, definitely.
But the how makes all the difference between having a sub-par orgasm and experien
cing the best ways to orgasm.
Besides, experimenting and uncovering unexpected erogenous zones can bring a lot of playfulness into your sex life, says Kate McCombs, M.P.H., a NYC-based sex educator and founder of Sex Geekdom.
Best Ways To Orgasm For Women: Your Erogenous Zones Identified
There are many areas on our body, other than the genitals, that can ignite desire. By stimulating these spots, you’re bound to enjoy the best orgasms (yes, plural) of your life, hands down.
So, without further ado…
7 “sweet spots” For The Best Ways To Orgasm
Did you know that our lips are one of the most sensitive parts of our bodies, apart from fingertips?
“Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a bunch of nerve endings located very close to the surface of the skin (they’ve got 100 times more than our fingertips),” says Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast.
A touch of the lips releases the feel-good hormones. Besides, more brain power is spent interpreting sensations of touch from the lips and fingers than from other areas that contain these cells.
One of the best ways to orgasm is surely through a good steamy kiss. (Source: Pixabay)
“Use your own lips, teeth, and tongue to lick, nibble, and caress the top and bottom lip, experimenting with different amounts of pressure,” suggests Morse. If you’d like, seductively trace the outline of your partner’s lips with your thumb while locking eyes with them and then get back to it.
“Ears are considered to be highly erotic” but are “often overlooked”, according to Morse. With that, it makes them an even hotter spot when you want to spice things up a little in bed.
Stroking someone’s ears may help your partner climax, or even intensify their orgasm.
Try lightly tracing the c-shaped outline of your partner’s ears. Do it in a fashion that is deliberate; playful with a tinge of gentleness. Slowly, let your mouth take over.
“Gently kiss the earlobe, or hold it lightly in your mouth and massage it with your lips. If they seem to be enjoying this, you can take it as a green light to start to nibble or suck on the lobe,” says Morse. Alternate with exploring with your partner’s ears by gently biting, kissing and blowing on them — when both of you are more comfortable.
3. Nape of Her Neck
“The nape and back of your neck have so many nerve endings,” says Greer. “A light touch is all it takes to drive you and your partner wild.”
Greer suggests starting things off by running your fingers lightly up and down his neck while kissing. If he doesn’t get the hint, simply tilt your head to the side. “Offer it up True Blood-style with a sexy ‘kiss me here’ command,” she adds.
According to sexologist Carol Queen, the back of the neck, just below the hairline is an especially erotic spot. “Encourage him to rub, suck or lightly scratch the back of your neck,” she adds.
4. Inner Thighs
More than just wrapping those legs around your man, they can do better.
Try getting your partner to nibble, nip and lick those inner thighs as they are extra sensitive — definitely one of the best ways to orgasm… or herald one.
Greer suggests exploring a new sensation on a really hot day. Ask your man to “trace an ice cube up and down [your thighs]”, she says.
5. The Nipples / breasts
This is an obvious one but you can do much more with them. Men go crazy over them but they don’t know the right way to stimulate them for better pleasure. Don’t pounce on them, or squeeze them too hard.
The trick here is to build up the excitement.
Try a mixture of tracing the nipple in circular motions and then sucking on them. Alternate with kissing her on the lips. This is bound to set her on an orgasmic experience as it sparks the same brain area that’s ignited when you masturbate.
6. The Hands
Wait… what? Yes. “Your hands are one of your most important sex organs,” shared Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.
The hands are extremely sensual and the slightest touch can gently produce waves of sensation. “And when you suck them, you’re actually having a form of oral sex,” says Chavez.
Sucking on a finger and then massaging it with the tongue “sends the signal to the reward center of the brain similar to sex”. It’s because fingers anatomically echo a phallic object and the mouth produces an orifice-sensation like the vagina, he says.
7. The Areolae
Try subtle pinching with this one rather than light stroking because the skin surrounding the nipples doesn’t have as many nerves as the “bullseye” itself. He can also squeeze, rub or cup your breasts to rev this zone.
“Have him put a finger on each side of your nipple to add more feel-good pressure,” says Queen.
Don’t underestimate the power of the mind.
Research suggests that the “origins of erogenous distribution may derive from a map located elsewhere in the brain”.
Conjuring up scenarios in your head to get into the mood can be effective as well. Just pure imagination can get you all tingly and wishing you had someone beside you right now.
Source: Women’s Health, The Journal of Sexual Medicine, NCBI
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