Sex is an important part of being married. It's a way for the couple to be closer with each other, and become more intimate. However, it's important to understand that sex isn't the be all and end all of the relationship. Sometimes we're tired. Sometimes we're just not in the mood. How can you tell your husband that you don't want to have sex tonight?
You're not obligated to always say yes
For a lot of couples, the first few months that they're married is such an amazing time. They can hardly stand to be away from each other, and can hardly keep their hands off each other!
However, there comes a point when your husband wants to have sex, but you're not in the mood. Perhaps because you're tired, you want to sleep, or you're just not in the mood to have sex at that moment. What can you do? How can you tell your husband that you don't want to have sex tonight?
First off, it's important to know that you're not obligated to always say yes when your husband wants to have sex. Sex and consent go hand in hand, and no one, even your husband, can force you to have sex if you don't want to.
It's also important to make it clear with your husband that just because you said no, doesn't mean you don't want to have sex anymore, nor do you find him unattractive. Make it clear that you're just not in the mood to have sex at that time, and hope that he understands you.
Saying no doesn't mean you don't love your husband
Some wives are worried that if they their husband that they don't want to have sex tonight, their husband might feel insecure, or their husbands might feel that the reason why they're saying no is because they're not satisfied with the sex.
This is why it's important to be open with your husband and tell them how you really feel. This is where trust plays a huge role in the relationship as having a high level of trust prevents your husband from feeling insecure when you say no to sex.
Sometimes, it could be the case that you're really not satisfied with the sex you're having. If that is the case, then you could tell your husband that you want to try different things, or you could tell him what you like and dislike, so that he can do those things whenever you're having sex.
Whatever the reason, making sure your husband understands where you're coming from is very important. Getting turned down can sometimes make your husband feel bad. However, don't let him use the guilt into forcing you to do something that you clearly don't want to do. Trust and respect are very important in a marriage, and you should value those qualities if you want to have a happy and meaningful relationship with your husband.
Source: theguardian.com, psychologytoday.com
READ: Why do some women lose their interest in sex?
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