X
theAsianparent Philippines Logo
theAsianparent Philippines Logo
EnglishFilipino
Product GuideSign in
  • Building a BakuNation
  • Becoming a Parent
    • Trying to Conceive
    • Pregnancy
    • Delivery
    • Losing a Baby
    • Project Sidekicks
  • Ages & Stages
    • Baby
    • Toddler Years
    • Preschool Age
    • Kids
    • Preteen & Teen
  • Parenting
    • Parent's Guide
    • News
    • Relationship & Sex
  • Health & Wellness
    • Diseases & Injuries
    • Allergies & Conditions
    • Vaccinations
  • Education
    • Preschool
    • K-12
    • Special Education Needs
  • Lifestyle Section
    • Celebrities
    • Contests & Promotions
    • Home
    • Travel and Leisure
    • Fashion
    • Fitness
    • Wellness
    • Money
  • Become a VIP
  • COVID-19
  • Press Room
  • TAP Recommends
  • Shopping
  • Awards
    • Parents' Choice Awards 2023

5 easy steps to have a healthy marriage

3 min read
5 easy steps to have a healthy marriage

Marriages aren't easy to get sorted out, but with these 5 easy steps, we're sure that you'll have a happy and a healthy marriage!

1. Set realistic expectations for each other

Setting realistic expectations means that you’re giving your spouse goals that are achievable, and that you could work on. A good example would be when it comes to conflict and arguments. A lot of couples think that they shouldn’t have conflict, but in reality having conflict means that you’re talking about your problems and you’re working on solving them.

Real-life couples have fights, but they work on their problems. Don’t compare you and your spouse to those couples you see in movies or on television, be realistic, and you’ll both be happier for it.

2. Give rewards and affirmation

The little things really do matter. Small acts that “reward” positive behavior such as a kiss, saying “I love you,” or a tight hug makes your partner know and feel that they are special, and that you care deeply about them.

And surprisingly, men actually need affirmation more than women. So don’t forget to give your husband a peck on the cheek everytime he does something for you around the house.

3. Communicate more with each other

A lot of couples say that they talk to each other, but they aren’t communicating. Communication is a two-way street, you have to speak and then you have to listen to what your partner is saying. Talk to each other about your lives, your dreams, where you see yourself 10 years from now, your interests etc.

You need to communicate in order to know more about each other, and by getting to know each other better, you learn to adjust and work on your relationship to keep it strong.

4. Mix things up, don’t be afraid of change

There’s a saying that goes, “the only thing constant is change.” and even in healthy relationships, that’s true. It doesn’t mean that that just because your current setup is working out, you shouldn’t change anything.

Talk to your partner and see where you can try and mix things up. Sometimes, problems arise when everything becomes too routinary, and there’s nothing that excites you anymore. Mix things up, always look for something new, and don’t be afraid of change in your lives.

5. Less fighting, more fun

According to psychologist Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., happy couples have a 5 to 1 ratio between their happy feelings and experiences and their negative feelings and experiences.

This means that you should add more memorable positive experiences to your lives. Negative feelings and experiences can take its toll on your relationship, so you should make sure to temper those things with a lot of happy thoughts and experiences. Behaviors such as fighting, miscommunication, jealousy, keeping secrets, and not getting along with your partner’s friends or family are things that should be avoided.

Partner Stories
Parents, here's what you should do when your child sees you and your spouse fighting
Parents, here's what you should do when your child sees you and your spouse fighting
3 Game Changing Baby Products that’s Now Available
3 Game Changing Baby Products that’s Now Available
13 Must-haves for Your Online Baby Checkout Checklist
13 Must-haves for Your Online Baby Checkout Checklist
Why Knowing Children’s Current Academic Ability Can Help them Advance in School
Why Knowing Children’s Current Academic Ability Can Help them Advance in School

Source: psychcentral.com

READ: 13 steps to kickstart a positive change in your marriage

Be sure to check out theAsianparent Community for more insightful stories, questions, and answers from parents and experts alike. If you have any insights, questions or comments regarding the topic, please share them in our Comment box below. Like us on Facebook and follow us on Google+ to stay up-to-date on the latest from theAsianparent.com Philippines!

Got a parenting concern? Read articles or ask away and get instant answers on our app. Download theAsianparent Community on iOS or Android now!

img
Written by

Jan Alwyn Batara

Become a Contributor

  • Home
  • /
  • Couples
  • /
  • 5 easy steps to have a healthy marriage
Share:
  • Dads of boys: Here's how YOU can help stop violence against women

    Dads of boys: Here's how YOU can help stop violence against women

  • What is uninvolved parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

    What is uninvolved parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

  • What is authoritative parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

    What is authoritative parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

  • Dads of boys: Here's how YOU can help stop violence against women

    Dads of boys: Here's how YOU can help stop violence against women

  • What is uninvolved parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

    What is uninvolved parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

  • What is authoritative parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

    What is authoritative parenting? Here's what you need to know about it

Get advice on your pregnancy and growing baby. Sign up for our newsletter
  • Pregnancy
    • Baby
    • Breastfeeding & Formula
    • Baby Names
    • Delivery
  • Parenting
    • Parent's Guide
    • Advice for Parenting Kids
    • Relationship & Sex
  • Lifestyle Section
    • Local celebs
    • Celebrities
    • Money
    • News
  • FAMILY & HOME
    • Couples
    • Weekend & Holiday Guide
    • Health
  • Building a BakuNation
    • More
      • TAP Community
      • Advertise With Us
      • Contact Us
      • Become a Contributor


    • Singapore flag Singapore
    • Thailand flag Thailand
    • Indonesia flag Indonesia
    • Philippines flag Philippines
    • Malaysia flag Malaysia
    • Sri-Lanka flag Sri Lanka
    • India flag India
    • Vietnam flag Vietnam
    • Australia flag Australia
    • Japan flag Japan
    • Nigeria flag Nigeria
    • Kenya flag Kenya
    © Copyright theAsianparent 2023. All rights reserved
    About Us|Team|Privacy Policy|Terms of Use |Sitemap HTML
    • Tools
    • Articles
    • Feed
    • Poll

    We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

    We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

    theAsianparent heart icon
    Nais naming magpadala ng notification sa'yo tungkol sa latest news at update sa pag-aalaga ng baby at kanilang kalusugan.