Some people’s advice tend to do more harm than good. And when it comes to relationship advice, there’s no end to the amount of bad advice that you hear from people.
Here are just a few of the worst pieces of relationship advice that experts have heard:
Fighting in a relationship spells trouble
Obviously, fights aren’t fun in a relationship. However, it doesn’t necessarily mean that if you fight, things are not working well. Fighting is normal, and it’s healthy. And it helps people let go of deep-seated emotions that they might be holding back.
Of course, don’t make fights into a habit, and make sure to discuss things like mature adults and avoid having meltdowns when you’re fighting.
You know a relationship will work if it’s great right from the start
When people give you advice, it’s usually coming from their perspective and their experiences, which means that it doesn’t always apply to everyone.
Relationships are works in progress, so it’s very important to not think of a seemingly “failing” relationship as hopeless. The important thing is that both of you are on the same page, and that the both of you are constantly trying to fix any problems and make your relationship better.
“Honesty is the best policy”
There’s a difference between being honest, and hiding some things to avoid saying so you don’t come off as insensitive. It’s very important to consider your partner’s reaction when you tell them something, and think about how that will affect your relationship.
However, you shouldn’t lie directly to your partner. It’s important to have some finesse and tact whenever you’re talking about sensitive topics.
You need to meet each other’s needs
Relationships don’t thrive on emotionally needy people. It’s important for people in a relationship to understand that you shouldn’t treat your partner as a crutch, and it’s important to be emotionally stable, and don’t always depend on your partner for your emotional needs.
Both people in the relationship need to have lives outside of one another, and need to have interests that aren’t necessarily a part of the relationship. Having some time for yourself, outside the relationship, does a lot when it comes to becoming more emotionally stable, which can in turn lead to having a stronger and much more stable relationship.
Source: businessinsider.com
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