Husband's confession: I don't cheat on my wife because of these 9 reasons

How to avoid cheating in a relationship? The best answer is just to decide you’re not going to do it!

We always ask the question, “Why do men cheat?” It’s not like there’s any valid reason why they do what they do. A man can be married to the nicest, most beautiful woman in the world but still fool around with other girls if he wants to.

But not all men are the same. There are a lot of loving and devoted husbands out there who know there’s more to life than having an escapade – having a wonderful relationship with his spouse and building a family.

Read this practical yet heartwarming confession below from a faithful husband and a dad of two.

9 Reasons why I don’t cheat on my wife

There can be a lot of reasons why men choose to cheat. Yet I choose not to dwell on that because I’m not one of them. I have never and I don’t intend to cheat on my wife.

I am an executive in a big company and pre-pandemic, I am surrounded by women at work. Some would even say my being “suplado” adds to my charm. My wife is not even the jealous type. She told me before,  in different words, “I won’t die if you leave me.” So maybe I can get away with cheating if I wanted to. But I don’t.

Because the truth is, I can be surrounded by the most beautiful women all day, and only have eyes for one – my wife.

Whether I’m being pragmatic or a romantic, I just never saw the appeal of cheating. Being faithful and building a life with my family, now that’s something I’m excited about.

“How to avoid cheating in a relationship?” Maybe I don’t have the perfect answer for that. But I can share several reasons why I don’t cheat on my wife:

• I love my wife.

The single most important reason why I married my wife in the first place is also the single most important reason why I shouldn’t cheat on her.

We have been married for 10 years, and we were together for 5 years before getting married. We already have two kids. And while we don’t have a perfect relationship, I still love being around her. She’s an amazing woman and I love her.

So whether I wake up feeling like the most powerful man in the world or the most inadequate, love is a decision I make every single day. I take a long hard look at myself and my relationship with my wife before I do anything stupid.

• I made a promise.

I believe that if you have a shred of honor in you, or if you want your word to mean something to other people, then don’t cheat.

Marriage is a promise, and in a world where promises are broken every hour, keeping my promise to my wife might be one of the respectable things I can ever do in my life.

• I don’t want to lose credibility.

I have children, and I look forward to providing them guidance throughout their lives. Cheating on my wife can diminish my credibility in their eyes.

It will be more challenging for me if I want to teach them things like respect, being truthful, or keeping promises. 

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• I don’t want to give my kids issues.

Cheating on my wife can potentially cause emotional and psychological burdens to my kids. They may carry these for the rest of their lives and influence the way they look at families and relationships.

• I’m too busy working on our goals for our family.

Life is hard. Achieving meaningful goals is harder. Why waste your time on short-term thrills? I’m simply too driven and busy pursuing short and long-term goals. Goals that I have set with my wife for our family.  

• I don’t want to contribute to a culture of infidelity.

Whether we like it or not, our actions can have ripple effects on society as a whole. Cheating is something that I don’t want to be normalized. I don’t want to live in a society that finds it acceptable for people to break their commitments. 

• I don’t want to ruin relationships with friends and family.

Cheating can cause rifts among family and common friends. I don’t want my friends or family to pick sides, and I certainly don’t want to lose any of them. I can’t imagine putting my children in such a stressful situation.

Also, I don’t want the stress of always being careful in social interactions and gatherings.   

• It can ruin your life and standard of living.

Cheating can mess you up in more ways than one. I worked so hard to build the life I’m sharing now with my beautiful family. I don’t want to re-organize my comfortable life. Things can be more complicated if children are involved.  

• Cheating takes a lot of work.

Sneaking around, having two or more phones, maintaining different online accounts. Some men might find that exciting. But I’m a simple guy, so I just can’t.

Imagine the logistical nightmare, not to mention the additional funds required in keeping secret relationships. Do I really need this stress and hassle in my life? 

These are my reasons, and whether I made a good case for it or not, it’s up to you. I believe the secret on how to avoid cheating in a relationship is to decide that it’s not worth it in the first place.

Instead of wasting my time and resources wooing some random girl, I would rather have dinner dates and grocery runs with my wife, and sleepovers with my kids. What could be better than that?

As told to the author by a TAP dad.