Most people think that to have great sex, you have to know the ‘secret moves,’ and special positions. And while those may be helpful, in reality, the key to having great sex isn’t physical.
It’s all about intimacy
According to Adam Wilder, who created the world’s first “Festival of Togetherness,” intimacy is the secret that makes any relationship meaningful.
He shares, “The holy grail, is intimacy. Intimacy’s the real taboo in our society – it’s the thing we fear, because it’s about taking off the mask that so many of us hide behind. But it’s the key to being freer, happier and more alive and it could change not only our personal lives, but the political decisions we take as a society.”
Wilder adds that sex and intimacy are closely connected, and while it’s true that a person can have sex without being intimate, or be intimate with someone without having sex, putting the both of them together makes for a much more fulfilling experience.
Being intimate means having a deeper connection with each other, and that deeper connection makes for much better sex between you and your spouse.
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How can intimacy be improved?
Thankfully, intimacy is something that you can easily work on. Here are some tips to always remember to keep the flame alive:
- Make time to just talk to each other and converse. This is important since communication is the backbone of any marriage and relationships in general, so talking to each other would significantly improve your relationship, and in turn improve your intimacy.
- Be honest with each other. Honesty is very important in any relationship, and being honest with how you feel about certain things, and being honest with your emotions can help improve the intimacy between you and your spouse, since you’ll have a better understanding of each other.
- Put your spouse’s needs before your own. Thinking of your spouse’s needs first before your own needs can help make your spouse feel loved and cared for.
- Tell them that you love them. The simple act of saying “I love you” is such a big thing, and most couples tend to forget about it. Reassuring your spouse that you’re still in love with them helps keep the flame alive, and makes things intimate.
- Cuddle. You don’t always need to have sex whenever you and your spouse have some alone time. Sometimes cuddling is just fun and comfortable, and makes you feel relaxed, loved, and happy in your marriage.
Source: theguardian.com, psychcentral.com
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