Marriage Tips: How to be a good husband to your wife

Relationship communication can be a tricky thing. At one time or another, everyone has said the wrong thing at the wrong time. But you can’t go wrong with these 31 things marriage tips that all moms need to experience every now and then.

With this list, you can never run out of things to show how a husband should love his wife.

31 marriage tips: Things a husband should do to make his wife happy

1. Say thank you

Mothers do so much around the house and often get taken for granted. Let your wife know how much you value and appreciate her. Even just a simple thank you for making breakfast can go a long way.

2. Appreciate her mothering skills

All moms, no matter how capable or confident they seem, worry about how to be a good mom. The standards for dads, on the other hand, aren’t as high—why do you think society vilifies moms for the smallest errors while praising dads for just parenting?

Affirm your wife’s parenting skills and stand up for her when she faces unfair criticism. Do this especially when she has a rough and long day. She’ll appreciate this.

3. Tell her she’s beautiful

It’s hard to maintain a healthy self-image after pregnancy has wrecked your body and you’re spending most of your day running after your kids. It’s your job to remind your wife how beautiful she is, stretch marks and all.

4. Take her out on a date

Just because you’ve been together for years doesn’t mean that you should let the romance fade. Ask her out on a date, dress up, hold her hand, and just make an effort—it’ll make a world of difference in keeping your marriage alive.

5. Dress up nicely on your date

She would definitely appreciate it if you dressed up and looked presentable without her nagging you to do it. On a date night, expect her to dress up, so do the same. She would want lovely photos by the end of the night.

6. Spice up the date with unusual, fun activities

Try out something you’ve never done before. Is it camping? Perhaps bowling or biking? Getting married doesn’t mean you stop exploring the world and having fun together.

7. Clean that thing that annoys her the most

You know what she despises. Clean that thing you know she needs to get cleaned. Just go for it. She’ll pick up on it.

8. Make her something

Offer to make her anything if you make yourself something – tea, a sandwich, or a coffee.

9. Keep your promises

It is as simple as that.

10. Discuss what she likes in bed

We’re all adults here. Be open about each other’s preferences in bed. Is there anything she wants you to do more of? Carry out that action.

11. Be open about finances

Talk to your wife about the family’s budget, expenses, and spending habits. Work together in managing your family’s finances. It doesn’t mean monitoring each other’s spending but at least letting each other know of the status of your funds.

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12. Show her your support, no matter what

Mothers, especially stay-at-home moms, often feel isolated and alone. Be there for her and support her by checking up on her throughout the day and letting her know that she can lean on you when she needs to.

13. Do random acts of kindness

Make a list of random acts of kindness you can do for your wife. Maybe take out the trash without her reminding you; wash the dishes and wipe off the kitchen; water the plants, etc. Tick off each on the list and make some more once you’re done.

14. Spend some time apart

You don’t always have to be together. Spend some days apart and let each other have their alone time. Allowing your spouse (and, if you have kids) to be apart from you will revitalize them. They can fill their cup by spending time with friends or scheduling a self-care day.

15. Listen to her stories

Ask her about her day, her thoughts, how her family’s doing, and anything she feels like sharing with you. And actually, listen—that part’s crucial. Sometimes, at the end of the day, all she needs is someone to who she can talk to.

16. Don’t bring home your work

This is one of the marriage tips you can have, leave your work at work and don’t let it get in the way of family time.

17. Be mindful of the energy you bring home

Work can be really stressful but remember to relieve all that negative energy before coming home. You don’t want to pin your bad mood on your wife or your kids.

18. Help out at home

Your wife probably has her hands full with the kids and keeping the house together, especially if you don’t have any house help. Remember that dads are parents too and that you should also do your part at home.

Start by fixing stuff around the house that has long been waiting to be fixed or by cleaning the bathroom or the garage. She’ll definitely appreciate it!

19. Be kind, always

Always choose to be kind, no matter what. You are partners in marriage, you can be anything together.

20. Maintain an open communication

Marriage needs work and open communication, and by intentionally sitting down to talk about how your relationship can improve, you will probably end up doing just that.

21. Be a fan of hers

Introduce her to your friends, relatives, workmates, and other people you know, and mention an accomplishment of hers that you are most proud of. She is your wife, show her proud you are of her.

22. Admit your mistakes and say sorry

It takes a real man to own up to his mistakes. Set aside your pride and apologize first—even when you’re not the only one in the wrong. (Mommies, if you’re reading this, this applies to you too!)

23. Love her more when you’re fighting

Love her even at times when she’s annoying and you don’t like her. Never give up loving her, not in any situation. Communication and comprehension are always the keys.

24. Go to counseling

If you’re having intense fights and you both think you are unable to agree and compromise, try going to counseling and asking for help. This shows your wife that you’re always seeking ways to improve as a spouse and that you would always want to keep going forward.

25. Say I love you

Never let a day go by without saying this.

26. Make it creative

Tell her you love her in various creative ways. Put a love note in her purse first thing in the morning or surprise her on anniversaries you both almost forgot such as your first date, engagement day, the day you found out she was pregnant, etc.

27. Love them in their love language

Get to know each other’s love language. There are five basic love languages, according to marriage counselor Gary Chapman, Ph.D.: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, quality time, and gifts. Make sure to love your wife the way they want to be loved rather than the way you want to be loved. You may enjoy getting hugs but your wife might prefer a gift as a gesture.

28. Does she like social media posts that flex her?

Then do. Flex her on social media. Compliment her and tell the world how much beautiful she is inside and out.

29. Be enthusiastic about the things she loves

Let her geek over the things she loves – that TV show, that celebrity, or that platform. Get into it and share the enthusiasm.

30. Lessen your screen time

Does your wife get annoyed when you’re always on the phone or watching TV? Cut your screen time and spend it with her instead. This list is for you to find out what to do. *wink*

31. Randomly call her

A simple yet sweet gesture. Just call her and ask her how she’s doing. If she’s busy, send her an email or a message to cheer up her day. You can even send her something like her favorite snack or some fresh flowers.

How a husband should love his wife

If there is anyone in this world who knows how your wife can be loved best, it is YOU. You know her the most – her interests, quirks, pet peeves, every bit of her. Love her the way you know she deserves to be loved, and let this list be just your guide.