Can watching porn together save your sex life?
Is watching porn together a good idea?
When you and your partner have been together for a long time, it’s normal to feel that you need to spice up your sex life. One anonymous theAsianparent Community user asked about the role of porn in the bedroom:
Changing things up is good
The majority of the theAsianparent Community community advised giving porn a try in the bedroom. After all, mixing things up is good for your sex life. “Trying different things can keep your sex life brimming with newness,” Deephsikha P. responded. “So discuss this before actually sitting down for a kinky movie. You never know, your partner may also actually enjoy it.”
Communication is key
We can’t emphasize this point enough. Porn won’t work if you ambush your partner with a dirty video or force them to watch when they’re obviously uncomfortable. When you talk about it with your partner, however, it could enrich your relationship.
“I feel that under the right circumstances and in the proper frame of mind, watching porn together can actually do wonders for your sex life,” wrote Pavin C. “You should never feel like you're being judged. Porn can actually help foster emotional and sexual intimacy.”
Porn doesn’t work for everyone
While porn can be healthy for some couples, it can be detrimental for others. You or your partner could be uncomfortable with pornography, or could even be turned off by kinky videos. “We watched porn together before I got pregnant but after giving birth, I found myself turned off by porn because most, if not all, is scripted,” wrote Jamie K. “I'd rather just not watch porn and focus on ourselves instead of needing porn to get in the mood.”
"We never watch porn together as we are a bit shy," Diana L. wrote. "We feel it is weird to see other people having sex." If watching porn doesn't work for you and your partner, that's perfectly fine. There are other ways to spice up your sex life.
There’s no harm in trying, right?
At the end of the day, it pays to be receptive to your partner’s needs. You might not end up liking it, and that’s totally fine. What matters is keeping an open mind.
“Just do it, and if it feels weird after, then stop doing it,” Irsyad I. advised. “But definitely don’t try it just once. Give it a proper chance.”
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