Gone are the days when it’s recommended that you constantly praise your child as a means to build up their self-confidence. As parents, it’s easy to resort to pats on the back accompanied by saying “good job”.
Though we mean well when we say this to our kids it may not be doing the job of fostering their self-esteem.
It doesn’t hurt to say “good job” once in a while but parents and teachers can choose to ditch this overused phrase and get a bit more creative.
Encouraging self-esteem can be accomplished by putting emphasis on a child’s specific qualities and actions.
This way, you’re not only complimenting them, but you’re also teaching them more about themselves and showing them that you truly appreciate and value who they are.
Here are 30 alternatives to saying “Good Job”
1. I know that took a lot of patience
2. Studying hard really paid off
3. That shows dedication
4. You are really getting good at (insert mundane activity)
5. That took a lot of imagination
6. You are very brave
7. You really demonstrated good sportsmanship tonight
8. How creative!
9. You are so responsible
10. Can you tell me more about your (insert arts & crafts project)?
11. Thank you!
12. You were very respectful to your elders tonight
13. High five!
14. You’re managing your time so wisely!
15. That was all you!
More alternatives to “Good Job” on the next page!
16. I notice you’ve been working so hard on your homework
17. (Hugs)
18. Can you show me how you made it?
19. Sharing your (food/toy) was very considerate
20. That was very thoughtful
21. Thank you for being so patient with your brother/sister
22. You are thinking through your choices well
23. That showed that you are really strong
24. I could never do that when I was your age
25. Your good grades are the result of time and effort
26. You set such a good example for your classmates
27. You are making a lot of progress
28. You didn’t give up
29. You finished it so fast
30. We couldn’t have done it without you!
Why not try any of these phrases the next time you want to commend your child for a job well done?
Once you do this, note how your child reacts. Are they receptive and does it look like they’re feeling good about themselves? Does one phrase work better than the other?
But remember that not everything your child does warrants praise. Just pick instances when something really stands out or helps their good character shine through.
READ: 10 reasons why you should stop praising your kid for being smart
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