An unplanned pregnancy can turn your life around for the better. Read this story from one of our VIP moms.
What can you read in this article?
- How her unexpected pregnancy became the thing that saved her from breaking down.
- From rebel daughter to responsible mother
Life is unpredictable. I was a young woman who was set on achieving her goals. But in a matter of months, my dreams were delayed only to be replaced by something more fulfilling - being a mother.
As a child, I grew up in the most unpleasant and fearful environment that when I matured, I vowed to myself that if I become a mother, my child will grow in the most loving and caring way.
The rebellious daughter and her dark past
My family was strict and didn't allow me to enter into a relationship. To them, me having a boyfriend meant getting married and leaving them. My parents did their best to persuade me not to be in a relationship for I was the breadwinner. I felt like every decision was controlled and monitored by them.
I was tired of that setup and wanted to break free from that life. So I left my father's house and lived with my boyfriend's family's home.
It was a whirlwind romance. I met my live-in partner during the pandemic. Restrictions were heightened but we still got a chance to sneak out and meet in person. He courted me for two months and we became official. Three months later, I had an unplanned pregnancy.
Prior to my pregnancy, I was in a very dark place. I was sexually assaulted by my own father. Yes, the man I once adored for being hardworking took advantage of me. And my adoration for him was gone, in a snap.
I wanted to forgive and forget, but I couldn't. I was depressed and being in my own home was traumatic. I lost my will to live and the once goal-oriented girl was gone. I found it hard to accept my fate. I felt helpless and I wished that I had never been born at all.
My unplanned pregnancy saved me
Just when I was at my lowest, the growing life inside of me rekindled my passion for living.
Of course, it wasn't always easy. I was a pregnant woman working from home on a graveyard shift. So the stress was always there, not to mention unwanted pregnancy symptoms like backache, cramps, swollen feet, and frequent peeing. Hubby and I were not financially stable. We both had jobs, but due to the pandemic, we couldn't earn as much as we hoped for the baby.
Three months into my pregnancy, I told my hubby that we needed to save money to buy the baby's needs, but because of his limited income, I end up being the one paying for it.
Do you know how we were able to get by? I won gift certificates at work, and also from the "ayuda" due to the ECQ. These solved our problems and somehow eased our financial worries.
As my tummy blossomed, I could feel the blessings and miracles happening in my life. So despite her coming being unexpected, I consider my baby as my savior. She raised me from the dead as she lived and grew inside of me.
I can say that my unplanned pregnancy saved me from my dark past and from giving up on life.
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No regrets
Now that my child is born and I'm in this new role of being a mom, I want to make sure that I give my daughter the best life she deserves. I will protect her, teach her the right manners, and will support her in everything that she does. I will let her know that she is loved and cared for.
As a young mom who has been on the tricky path, I never regret that I rebelled because it gave me my precious baby. I have found my happiness, my peace, and my contentment in life with her in my life.
Her little hands held me close and made me hold on to dear life again. She built me up and created a new person in me. Her smiles could brighten my darkest day. Her cries showered hope to this season of dryness in my life. Her eyes reflect what I've been missing my whole life. Her breath is my oxygen. Her hug is my sanctuary.
I have never felt luckier to be alive than when I was carrying her for 9 months. The long hours of labor, the sleepless nights, all these changes in my body and my emotions are all worth it because it symbolizes the struggles I have overcome. I came from war and I have conquered.
So to all moms out there who felt that their unplanned pregnancies were mistakes, think again. You are growing a miracle inside of you. It's a blessing and an honor that not everyone gets to have.