Breastfeeding challenges are often overlooked because the journey is portrayed as the most natural part of motherhood — yet for many mums, it can feel anything but simple.
This World Breastfeeding Month, we’re shining a spotlight on the real experiences of modern mums. Together with Flegen, we’re bringing you an exclusive Ask The Expert session to unpack the myths, address the realities, and explore support systems that empower mums in their breastfeeding journey — including working mums who often face unique challenges balancing both worlds.
Join us as we welcome two incredible experts:
Yvon Bock – Founder and CEO of Hegen, and International Board-Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) of Flegen
Abie Chow – Senior International Board-Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) of Flegen
Together, they address some of the most pressing breastfeeding questions from mums — with honest, compassionate, and empowering advice.
Breastfeeding & Motherhood Guilt
Q: I feel guilty for returning to work while still breastfeeding. Am I a bad mum?
Yvon: Hi Elaine, you are certainly not a bad mother, it is easy to feel that way because of society’s standard of the role of a mother. Juggling work and caring for your baby takes incredible strength, and we are so proud of you!
I have walked this path as a breastfeeding working mum too. When I had my firstborn, I still remember the guilt of leaving him at home when I returned to work and how the naysayers were saying I wasn’t giving him enough attention. When I decided to leave my job to spend time with him, many also said that it was a waste for me to be a stay-at-home mum. This is the kind of guilt only mothers know, the feeling that no matter how much we give, it’s never enough.
But being a mother of four, I want to tell you this, we don’t need to choose between being a mother and having our passions and aspirations. The naysayers will have their own opinions about what motherhood should look like, but always remember that no one knows your baby the way you do ❤️
Q: My husband doesn’t understand my mental load as a breastfeeding mum. How do I cope?
Abie: Mama, I want you to take a deep breath with me. Everything you’re feeling is completely valid. Juggling work, breastfeeding, and everyone’s opinions altogether is one of the hardest things mothers do. Wanting both your career and to nourish your baby doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you human. Those pumping sessions at work are acts of love that deserve recognition.
About your husband’s comment…that must have hurt deeply. Many partners don’t realise how exhausting breastfeeding can be, it is also:
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Physically demanding (your body is working overtime!)
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Emotionally taxing (those hormones are powerful)
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A 24/7 commitment (even when you’re apart)
Here’s what I recommend:
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Have that important conversation – “When you call me ‘crazy’ for focusing on breastfeeding, I feel alone in caring for our baby. What I need is ____.”
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Attend an antenatal class together – Partners often have lightbulb moments when they learn the science and demands of breastfeeding. You can consider enrolling in Flegen’s Caring For Your Newborn class.
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Set household expectations clearly – Instead of “You never help!” try: “I need 30 minutes to pump at 2pm—can you handle ____ during that time?”
What matters most is that your little one is nourished by your love, whether you are exclusively breastfeeding, combo feeding or otherwise. You will always be their whole world!
Q: My workplace isn’t supportive of pumping. How do I handle this?
Yvon: Hi Mei Ling, I hope you give yourself credit for the strength that you’re carrying right now. Balancing work and breastfeeding is no easy feat, especially when the support around you is limited. It’s completely valid to feel frustrated when your colleagues don’t understand what you’re going through.
When I returned to my corporate job after maternity leave, my boss reprimanded me for disappearing from my desk as he thought that I was “slacking”. Once I explained my situation to him, he became more understanding and even suggested I put up a “Pumping in Progress” sign when I’m away.
Communication is key. You can also consider a wearable pump to help you continue even during meetings. Please remember, you’re doing what’s best for your child, and that’s something you should be very proud of! ❤️
Preparing for Breastfeeding Before Baby Arrives
Q: I’m pregnant with my first baby. How can I prepare for breastfeeding before birth?
Abie: Hi Grace, congrats on your pregnancy! It’s great you’re thinking ahead. Here’s how you can prepare:
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Mindset matters – Breastfeeding is 80% confidence, 20% technique.
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Colostrum – Some mums leak before birth, but collecting isn’t usually needed unless advised. After 37 weeks, you can try hand-expressing (if low-risk).
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Physical prep – Nipples need no special preparation. Focus on resting and learning.
Q: How can I ensure I’ll have enough milk supply when my baby comes?
Yvon: Hi Joanne, congratulations on your October baby! It’s normal to feel nervous. Here’s how to set yourself up:
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Learn the basics (attend antenatal classes).
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Build your support system (share responsibilities with your partner).
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Attend a prenatal consultation with your spouse.
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Reduce stress and keep oxytocin flowing (“I can do this!” + small joys like treats).
You got this, mama!
Navigating Supply Issues
Q: I just went back to work and my supply dropped. Is this normal? Should I switch to formula?
Yvon: I completely understand the pain of rushing between meetings, pumping under stress, and feeling that panic when supply started to dip! Please know that what you’re going through is completely normal, mama, and you are not alone.
When I first returned to work, I had to pump every 3 hours and even then, I worry whether it was “enough.” The truth is, your body is adjusting to a new rhythm, and that transition takes time. Stress, longer gaps between sessions, and the mental load of being back at work can all affect your milk supply.
It is about finding a rhythm that is sustainable and supports your baby’s growth in the long run. There is nothing wrong to mix feed your baby if that makes breastfeeding sustainable for you! What matters most is that your baby is nourished, and that you are mentally and emotionally well enough to enjoy this journey.
Q: I feel very sore after feeding. Is this normal or a latch problem?
Abie: Some tenderness at the start can be normal, but if the pain is sharp, ongoing, or making you dread the next feed, it’s often a sign that baby’s latch might need adjusting.
In cases like this, I really recommend seeing a lactation consultant. They can help check your baby’s latch, positioning, and even look out for things like tongue-tie or flange sizing if you’re pumping. Sometimes, just a small adjustment can make a big difference. Breastfeeding shouldn’t come with unbearable pain.
Q: How long can I continue pumping at work before slowly stopping? I feel very tired but guilty to stop.
Yvon: The truth is there’s no right time to stop. Some mums pump for a few months, some for a year, and some mix feed depending on what their body, baby, and life’s schedule allow.
If you’re feeling tired, it’s your body and heart telling you to pause and reassess. If continuing feels right, you can reduce sessions and see how your body responds. What matters is that your baby is loved and fed, and that you are well. Give yourself permission to choose rest without guilt.
Q: Is it true if I pump less or skip sessions, I can get breast lumps or tumours?
Abie: Good news mama, breast lumps/tumours are not linked to skipping pumps! But infrequent removal can cause engorgement or clogged ducts (ouch!).
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Pump/nurse regularly (even short sessions help)
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Hand-express if you’re pressed for time
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Massage lumps gently to prevent mastitis
Persistent lumps should always be checked by a doctor, but don’t worry—missing a pump won’t cause tumours.
Baby Feeding Patterns & Myths
Q: My baby latches for only a short time then falls asleep. Is this enough? Should I wake him?
Yvon: Yes, this is known as “snack and snooze” latch! Very common in the early weeks.
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First 2 weeks – Wake baby every 2–3 hours to feed (important for weight gain and preventing jaundice).
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Older babies – If gaining weight well, let them lead.
A lactation consultant can check latch and patterns if you’re unsure.
Q: Do boosters or food really increase supply? What should I eat?
Yvon: Milk supply is demand = supply. Feed/pump often and effectively. But foods and supplements can support:
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Deep latch & correct flange fit
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Frequent feeds/pumping
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Galactagogue foods (oats, fenugreek, alfalfa, blessed thistle)
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Hydration + balanced meals
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Relaxation for oxytocin flow
Think of food as a gentle nudge, not the main driver.
Q: Why do I feel sad or lonely while breastfeeding?
Abie: What you’re describing is called D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex). It’s caused by a dip in hormones during letdown, leading to a brief wave of sadness.
Things that help:
It usually eases after the first few months. But if it continues or feels heavy, seek professional help—your mental health matters.
Q: My MIL says my supply is low compared to my SIL. Is this true?
Yvon: It can be dampening to your confidence when your support system, especially a mother-in-law, compares you to someone else. But always remember this, love is NEVER measured in millilitres, and everyone’s bodies are different. You know what’s best for you and your baby.
Here are some signs your baby is being fed well:
1. Plenty of wet diapers (6+ a day is a great sign!)
2. Healthy weight gain: If your little one is gaining weight consistently, that’s another good sign! Babies’ appetites can vary (just like ours), so offer the breast often, and they’ll take what they need!
Additionally, do remember that all babies grow at their own pace, my firstborn had adorable baby rolls, while my third was small and skinny. When comparisons come up, try reframing the conversation with, “It’s amazing how every baby has their own unique journey!” and steer the discussion towards something positive.
Q: I had a C-section before and my milk came in late. How can I speed it up next time?
Yvon: C-sections can delay milk slightly. To encourage:
And most importantly: give yourself grace while your body heals ❤️
Q: My MIL says my breastmilk looks watery. Is this true watery milk means baby will not get enough nutrition?
Abie: Hi mama, gently let her know that breastmilk comes in different forms during a feed, and it is completely normal for your expressed milk to look watery. The thinner and bluish milk at the start is like a refreshing drink for your little one, it is hydrating and gives them quick energy.
As you continue to feed your little one, the expressed milk will become creamier and richer, providing the healthy fats and nutrients the baby needs to grow. Together, they make the perfect, balanced meal for your little one! Do not let these expectations define you, being a mother is a divine gift, and you’re already doing amazing!
Q: If I pump instead of latching at night, will it affect bonding?
Yvon: Bonding can happen in many ways and it does not have to be through latching. When I had my firstborn, I remember the pain of going back to work after maternity leave and worrying that I would miss out on his first steps. He also enjoyed my cuddles and the little lullabies that I would sing to him at night. Trust the rhythm that feels right for you and your little one, every moment you share with your baby is precious!
Common Breastfeeding Concerns
Q: My left breast produces less than my right. Is this normal?
Yvon: It’s far more common than most mothers think for one side to produce more milk than the other, which is why many mums lovingly call one their “favourite side.” This is simply how our amazing bodies work, and it’s nothing to worry about.
If you would like to encourage balance, start more feeds on the side with less output, as babies often nurse more eagerly at the beginning. You can also add an extra pumping session on that side to give it a little boost. With gentle consistency, your body often responds beautifully, increasing supply to meet the extra demand.
Most importantly, trust that your body knows what it’s doing. Every drop you make (whether from the left, right, or both), is your love and care for your baby, you’re giving your baby exactly what they need, and that in itself is something to celebrate!
Q: My baby cries after latching. Does it mean my milk isn’t enough?
Yvon: It’s absolutely normal to wonder about this, and it does not mean your milk isn’t enough. Babies cry for many reasons, and feeding is just one of them. If your little one is still upset after latching, it could be worth checking in with a lactation consultant, who can help you look for:
• Latch issues: A shallow latch or certain positions can make feeding less effective.
• Flow speed: Some babies get frustrated if milk comes too slowly or even too quickly.
• Discomfort: Things like reflux, trapped wind, or simply wanting to be close to you can lead to more crying.
You’re still getting to know your baby’s unique cues, and that’s a learning process for both of you. Sometimes, they may simply want the comfort, warmth, and reassurance of being near you, and that’s just as important as feeding. You’re doing a wonderful job by responding with love and patience so don’t panic and take a deep breath! You’ll learn to read these signals more easily, and your baby will feel safe knowing you’re there.
Q: Some days I feel touched out and want a break from latching. How to manage without guilt?
Yvon: Feeling touched out is your body’s way of asking for space. It doesn’t make you a bad mum. Give yourself permission to take short breaks: pump and let someone else feed, take a walk, or have a quiet shower. Caring for yourself keeps you present for your baby. Let go of the guilt, rest is part of love too.
Q: Will spicy or “heaty” food upset my baby’s tummy through breastmilk?
Abie: Most babies handle the flavours in breastmilk beautifully, after all, they tasted what you ate during pregnancy. Spicy or “heaty” foods are usually fine unless you notice your baby seems uncomfortable after a particular meal. You know your baby best, so follow their cues.
Q: I had a blocked duct before—super painful! How can I prevent it?
Abie: Blocked ducts can be so painful. To help prevent it from happening again, try to keep your milk flowing, feed or pump regularly so milk doesn’t sit for too long. Make sure your bra isn’t too tight, and change up your nursing positions to help drain different parts of the breast.
If you ever notice a tender lump starting, act early: place a warm compress, gently massage toward the nipple, and offer that breast to your baby more often or pump from that side. Catching it early can make a huge difference and help you avoid the pain and potential infection, that comes with a full blockage. You’re doing great by staying aware and taking care of yourself.
About the Experts
Yvon Bock is the Founder & CEO of Hegen, a global breastfeeding brand, and an International Board-Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) at Flegen. A mother of four, Yvon is passionate about supporting working mums and innovating solutions that make feeding journeys easier.
Abie Chow is a Senior International Board-Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) at Flegen, with extensive experience helping mothers navigate latching issues, milk supply concerns, and building confidence in their breastfeeding journey.
Originally published on theAsianparent Singapore
