Communication is one of the backbones of a strong and happy marriage. That's why couples need to know how to effectively communicate with each other.
Communication in a marriage goes more than just simply talking to your spouse. It’s also important to always mean what you say, and to avoid making any of these 4 communication mistakes!
1. Constantly afraid of being wrong
Some people feel the need to always be right when it comes to arguments. This behavior can lead to constant fighting and arguing just for the sake of being right, and that’s not good to have in your marriage.
If you’re caught in an argument with your spouse, give yourself a few moments to calm down, and carefully think about the words that you’ll say. Listening and trying to understand what your spouse is trying to communicate should always be your approach when it comes to arguments or misunderstandings. Don’t let your temper get the best of you, and always remember that you’re part of a team and you shouldn’t be fighting against each other.
2. Fear of ‘sounding stupid’
Have you ever had one of those moments where your spouse tells you something, but don’t really understand, so you just nod in agreement and don’t even think of asking them to explain it better? If you’re guilty of that behavior, then you might have a fear of ‘sounding stupid’.
Let’s face it, we don’t know everything, and there’s nothing wrong with asking your spouse to clarify what they said or asking for help if you don’t understand certain things. If anything, it shows that you trust your spouse enough to let them see your vulnerable side, and you’re humble enough to admit when you don’t understand something.
3. Not being open or honest with your feelings
Sometimes, people like to disregard their own feelings or shut other people out if they feel certain negative emotions. But in a marriage, the dynamics are totally different, so you need to be comfortable in sharing your innermost thoughts, fears, weaknesses, insecurities and other feelings with your spouse.
You should always be honest when your spouse asks you what you feel about something. You need to trust that they would understand how you feel and what you’re going through and that they will be supporting you every step of the way.
It’s okay to be emotionally vulnerable in front of your spouse, they will be more than happy to help you out.
4. Afraid of saying something that might hurt your spouse
Being afraid of offending or saying something that can hurt your spouse can sometimes lead to ‘white lies.’ And after some time, these white lies eventually grow into full blown lies and you find yourself suddenly being untruthful to your spouse.
It’s always important to be honest with your spouse, even if you know that what you say might hurt their feelings. You can always think of a better way to word what you say so that your spouse doesn’t get hurt or offended by the truth. The painful truth is always better than a good sounding lie.