Do you still recall how you felt on your first date? The excitement mingling with anxiety? That feeling when you reach for her hand and she doesn’t pull away? The moment when you knew it was the start of something special?
Once you’ve been married for a few years, the new and exciting is usually replaced by the familiar and comfortable. Though no less romantic, there will be times when your wife will crave to be wooed, just like you did during the courtship stage.
“So many parts of a relationship are stressful and difficult. Flirting is an easy way to bring sexiness into the marriage even if there isn’t time for a passionate romp in the bedroom,” Bat Sheva Marcus, Ph.D,, clinical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality tells SheKnows.com, “It’s a shorthand way of saying, ‘I love you and find you desirable and if the possibility was there I would make love with you right now.'”
Flirting or making lambing is a surefire way to keep the romance alive. It’s no secret that the strongest, lasting marriages aren’t just built on mutual trust and respect, they also thrive on healthy doses of kilig.
Here are 6 ways you can flirt with your wife!
Make her the apple of your eye
Focus on her! Truly listen to her. Be genuinely invested in her thoughts, feelings, and ideas.
Put your phone away
…or better yet, turn it off for some quality time! Don’t be glued to your gadget screen constantly. It makes your significant other feel like they’re not interesting enough for you. Ignoring them in favor of streaming the latest shows or playing the latest games can really take a toll on intimacy.
Don’t try to be the cool, hunky type, when she fell in love with your funny, dorky side! Make her laugh, even if you have to recycle old jokes. This will truly make her smile!
Heap praise on your better half whether you’re out in public or in the privacy of your bedroom. This shows her you appreciate her and are truly proud of her!
Hold her hand, stroke the small of her back, kiss her neck—flirt with her like you just started dating! It doesn’t have to be overly sensual. Keep it loving and tender. Let her know that it’s not expecting anything in return and that you just want to show her how much you care.
But know when to stop touching
Withholding touch can also build anticipation, once you do decide to use flirting as foreplay. Look into her eyes and use your words, this will surely sweep her off her feet!
How do you flirt with your wife? Share your tips in the comments below!
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sources: Fatherly, FamilyShare, SheKnows