Tips on how to discipline your child when they refuse to listen to you!

What to do when discipline doesn't work!

It’s a scenario that we have all faced at some point or another as parents: Your child is completely ignoring all efforts on your part at discipline. In a situation like this, it's all too easy to throw a mega tantrum of your own in order to get yourself heard and respected.

Well you may get heard, but as for earning respect... we are not too sure about that! We bring you the steps to handle such a situation without completely losing your cool.

Stay calm

Sometimes when you're completely frustrated with your kids not listening to you, you may instinctively feel the urge to spank or yell at them. Rather than giving into temptation, take a deep breath, keep calm and figure out why your child is ignoring all attempts at discipline and now stands before you throwing a tantrum.

Be assertive

Approach the matter as calmly as you can. Sit your child down, get down to his eye level and deliver your message to them in a voice that is calm and controlled, but still assertive.

Assert that you run the household and that everyone, even you, has to respect the house-rules, even though they may not want to sometimes. Tell them that inappropriate behavior has its consequences and that as much as they may not like this rule, you are going to have to implement it anyway.

Consequences and apologizing

Implement your regular course of action for when your child engages in inappropriate behavior. If it's an older child, it could be taking away phone, TV or other privileges, or giving them extra chores.

For a younger child, it could be time-out or sitting on the 'thinking chair'. Whatever your disciplinary tactic may be, do stay consistent.

Move on

Once they have had time to think about their actions and have apologized, move on and stop talking about the incident. Give your child a hug, tell him that you love him and move on with your regular activities.

What to do when discipline doesn't work!

Remember, if a child know’s that throwing a tantrum or not listening to you winds you up, then children being children will re-visit that scenario on many occasions just to trigger that reaction from you. But if you show restraint in the face of your child's inappropriate behavior, your child will soon get bored with trying to work you up and pay attention what you have to say.

Article originally published on: theAsianparent.com

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