5 Signs of a failing marriage
Being married isn’t easy. Marriage entails a lot of responsibilities and it means that you’re no longer entitled to some of the things that you used to do back when you were still dating, or even when you were single. And in cases wherein these responsibilities are neglected or taken for granted, that’s when the problems start, and the marriage starts to fail.
That’s why it’s important to know what signs to look out for before the marriage starts to deteriorate even further.
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1. Someone always has to be right
Being competitive with your partner is healthy to an extent. However, if it always ends up that someone has to be right, and the other person has to be wrong, then that’s when the problem starts.
It’s important for couples to avoid controlling behavior as it can make the other person feel emotionally manipulated. This can also eventually lead to emotional abuse, which is a terrible situation for anyone. Understanding each other’s point of view may be be the best way to solve this.
2. There’s no connection
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Do you feel sometimes that you and your spouse are more like roommates rather than lovers? If you start to feel that you and your partner are losing your connection to each other, then it would be best to talk to each other about it.
Who knows, they might be feeling the same way, and talking to each other would be extremely helpful so that you can release all of your pent-up emotions so that you can slowly start to fix the problems in your relationship. Always remember, communication is a key to connection.
3. There’s resentment and emotional baggage
Do you feel that each time you fight with your partner, there’s always some emotional baggage that you can’t seem to get rid of? If that’s the case, then you might be harboring some resentment towards your partner.
Open communication is important in the relationship, it’s not always enough to say sorry or make up after a fight, it’s also important to talk about why the fight happened and tell your partner whatever it is that hurt you. Being open and talking things through is one way to keep your marriage alive.
4. Emotional betrayal
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Did you know that there is such a thing as emotional infidelity? If you feel like you or your partner prefers the company of other people rather than each other, then there might be some emotional betrayal happening in your relationship.
In some cases, emotional betrayal is actually more devastating compared to other forms of cheating as it can make the other person feel inadequate and feel like they’re not needed.
5. Playing the blame game
Poor communication is one of the biggest problems that failing marriages have. And being resentful or always blaming the other person for the problems in the relationship is emotional abuse, and it can really destroy an otherwise healthy relationship.
If you find yourself being angry all the time at your partner or blaming them for all the relationship’s problems, it’s time to take a good hard look at your relationship, and try and see what changes you can do in order to save your relationship. Don’t look for the flaws in your relationship. Try to find again the love in your relationship that gradually fading.
“Marriage stands the test of times when both you and your spouse work towards making things better. And we are tested the most when we face adversities. If you can sail through the adversities as one, as a team, then you have won half the battle.” – Unknown
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