“Tumaba ka” iyan ang madalas na comment sa atin ng ibang tao lalo na kapag kakapanganak lang natin at nahihirapan tayong bumalik sa dati nating katawan.
Hi! My name is Yanny. I am a first-time Mom. Being a mother is something precious and beautiful. That’s the perks of being a woman, right?
Having a baby will surely change your life. It will change the way you see things (new perspective), how to be more loving and patient, rethink priorities, and many more.
Pero hindi lang ito ang malaking pagbabago na naranasan ko.
Becoming a mother changed my body
Before I got pregnant, my usual weight is 47-50 kilograms lang. But when I’m about to pop up, I was 75 kilograms. I was then worried about my weight na baka ma affect si baby inside but praise God, everything went well. I am healthy and my baby too.
Totally nag-iba talaga ang katawan ko. Well obviously, dahil buntis ako that time, but when I gave birth, hindi agad bumalik ang katawan at weight ko sa dating size XS and 50 kilograms. Sabi kasi nila babalik naman agad ang dati mong body state after giving birth, but It’s a prank!
Because of that sort of expectation, I suffered from postpartum blues. Just a trivia, right after giving birth, estrogen and progesterone levels drop dramatically, which can contribute to the “baby blues or postpartum blues” (mood swings, anxiety, sadness, or irritability, which resolve within a week or so of birth).
“Tumaba ka” iyan ang madalas na comment sa atin ng ibang tao lalo na kapag kakapanganak lang natin at nahihirapan tayong bumalik sa dati nating katawan.
In my case, ang puyat, pagod and also the huge change in me, in my body particularly, affects my emotional and mental state deeply and leads me to experience postpartum blues.
Sobrang laki kasi ng pinagbago ng katawan ko (during & after pregnancy). Not to mention pa ‘yong effort mo in breastfeeding your child, swollen legs and feet, feeling the pain in your belly dahil sa CS operation, those stretch marks, and a lot more.
Ang dating XS naging XXL na
After few weeks of giving birth, I bought new clothes pero hindi na XS ang size kundi XXL. Halos lahat ng damit ko hindi ko na magamit dahil walang mag fit sa new size ko.
Sa mga nakaka-relate sa experience ko, nakaka-stress ‘di ba? There were days na feeling ko talaga slowly bumabalik na ako sa original size ko pero baka nga feeling ko lang ‘yon because there were people who would make comments like “Ang taba mo pa rin”, “Manas ka pa rin ba?”, “Malaki pa rin tiyan mo?”,”Tumaba ka talaga.”
And to tell you honestly, those words, ‘yong “tumaba ka na” would cause me to break down and cry.
Maybe OA ‘yong reaction ko but I know first moms can relate to me kaya please don’t judge. May hormonal imbalance pa kami. Kaya advice lang, if you have friends na kakapanganak pa lang, please be kind and be polite. Huwag kayong magbigay ng comments na “tumaba ka na” o “manas ka pa”.
Give good comments, encourage them and be their support system because we don’t know if that person is going through something.
BASAHIN:
Mom confession: “Nakakasakit ng damdamin na masabihan ng LOSYANG.”
CS mom confession: “Sinabihan ako na maarte kaya hindi daw ako nakapag-normal delivery.”
Mom Confession: “My husband stopped being attracted to me after I gave birth.”
Nagpapasalamat ako sa asawa ko
I really thank God that I have my husband supporting me all the way. He would always comfort me and make me feel so beautiful and sexy every day.
I truly appreciate every gesture and word of affirmation by my husband, but inside of me, I am struggling. Matinding kalaban talaga ang isip natin. Our mind is a battlefield. We need to fight and win over it! Tandan mo, you are an overcomer!
Reminder nga ng bible sa atin, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Joyce Meyer once said,
“One of the greatest revelations of my life is: I can choose my thoughts and think things on purpose. In other words, I don’t have to just think about whatever falls into my mind.”
This helps me a lot and I realized that I need to shift my thoughts about the things in front of me. Instead of focusing on the things that make me feel down, I focus on loving and embracing the new me.
I really praise God for His peace that surpasses all understanding, it guarded my heart and mind about the new season in my life, motherhood. I am now learning more about who God is and what He thinks about me has certainly changed me.
Whatever shape and size you have, you are loved. I know I can be fit again but I need to accept that I will never have a pre-baby body again. But that’s ok. I would happily trade that body for this baby, over and over again.
I have a powerful and awesome body – even if it’s not perfect anymore because I grew an AMAZING human INSIDE my body and this body brought that little human into the world.
I am a completely different person now than I was before I had my first baby. Hindi pa ako nakakabalik sa size XS and it’s okay. If makabalik man ako sa dati kong size, I’ll be thankful and happy. If not, I’ll still choose to be thankful and happy too.