For a lot of parents, the question of starting their own family is a no-brainer; especially since having a child is one of the biggest joys of being a parent.
However, it's just as important to know that your husband is prepared for the immense responsibility of raising your own little human. Here are some questions that your husband should be able to answer before having a child:
1. How sure are you that you're ready to be a dad?
Truth be told, no amount of preparation can get you ready to become a parent. Even if you do all the research and ask for tips from everyone you know, chances are, you'll still have a hard time taking care of your child. And that's totally fine; taking care of a child is a huge responsibility, and it catches everyone off-guard, even the most prepared moms and dads.
However, if you want to start a family, your husband should be prepared for the responsibility. It isn't enough that your husband says "Yes, I'm ready," it's also important that he knows that having a baby means a lot of stress, sleepless nights, and the occasional diaper changing.
Then there's the matter of your pregnancy. He should be able to take care of you, take you to your weekly checkups, and take you to the hospital if you suddenly go into labor. Having a husband that you can depend on while your pregnant would also significantly help reduce the stress of your pregnancy.
It's a big responsibility, and if you're husband is confident that he's ready, then you've got nothing to be scared of!
2. Why do you want to be a dad?
There's a lot of reasons to want to be a dad. As a wife, it's important for you to know why your husband's reasons for wanting to have a child, and would help you know if your husband truly is ready for a baby.
Having a child isn't a solution for a feeling of emptiness, or being unsatisfied with his life. If those are his reasons, then you might want to talk things through, since maybe the solution to his problems doesn't have anything to do with having a child.
Either way, the important thing to remember is that the both of you want to have a child because you want to bring life into the world, and take care of your child so that they grow up to be a wonderful loving, caring, and beautiful human being.
3. What do you think makes a good dad?
Asking your husband this question lets you know what values he wants to teach your child. It also lets you get to know your husband even more. Because even if you're already married, the dynamics of your relationship would definitely change once you have a child, and you'll see a side of your husband that you've never had a chance of seeing before.
You should also ask him what he thinks makes a 'bad' dad, and what he can do himself in order to avoid those negative traits. You could also ask him how he thinks your relationship will change once the both of you become parents.
4. What kind of father do you think you'll be?
This question gives you an insight into what roles your husband thinks he'll be doing once he becomes a dad. It also lets you know if he's aware of the different things that parents need to do when taking care of their kids, as well as how he'll discipline your kids, and teach them what they need in order to grow up well.
5. Will you constantly try to be a better father?
Your husband should always be looking for ways on how he can become a better father to your child. Parents don't know everything about having a child, so when you choose to have a child, everything should be treated as a learning experience.
That's why it's important for you to know that you're husband is willing and able to constantly change his parenting style, and learn from his experiences as a dad in order to take better care of your child.
Having the assurance that your husband will do his best in order to become an amazing and responsible parent should be the signal that your husband is indeed ready to be a father!
Source: familyshare.com
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