Picky Eaters

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Your toddler pushes the bowl of porridge with barely traceable sightings of broccoli in it. He eyes the bowl of purple jelly on the kitchen counter instead. This has been happening religiously over the last few months and you are exasperated. Why is he such a picky eater?

Picky Eaters

Picky Eaters
Picky Eaters

Your toddler pushes the bowl of porridge with barely traceable sightings of broccoli in it. He eyes the bowl of purple jelly on the kitchen counter instead. This has been happening religiously over the last few months and you are exasperated. Why is he such a picky eater?

You are not alone. Parents are facing this problem worldwide. The greens are always a kid’s enemy at meal time. Broccoli, brussels sprouts, celery and just about every other green looking vegetable, is bound to be turned away by Junior. Is it the colour green? Is it the taste? The list of food turned away does not end with the greens. It continues with fish, steamed chicken, fruits and almost every other food item that promises growth in a child.

A recent study was done by Abbott on 214 mothers between 25 – 40 years of age and the results showed that 2 in 5 mothers said their children are picky eaters.

54.5% mothers curb the problem by coaxing the child to eat while 27% allow the child to eat whatever he likes. With such a problem affecting so many children, how do you gain control of the situation?

According to Anna Jacob, medical manager at Abbott Nutrition, monitor your child’s growth. Small steps should be taken consistently to change the eating habits. It is also important to understand the growth development according to age, gender and even family genes. Try to encourage your child to eat whole grain food rather than give in to his slightest whine.

Your first two children were not picky eaters and usually wolfed down everything set before them. But, your third child slouches in front of his plate and takes tiny bites. Dr. Benny Kerzner, Pediatric Gastroenterologist in Washington D.C, says it is important to note that siblings have different eating habits. If the problem gets terribly troubling, involve a gastroenterologist or a nutritionist.

How to deal with picky eater toddler?

Dr. Kerzner advises to have feeding principles and label them as ‘food rules’ during mealtimes. Dr. Kerzner’s suggested list of food rules include:

Avoid distraction

Neutral attitude – never get angry

Feed your child to encourage his appetite

Limit duration – remove the food when mealtime is over, regardless of how much has been eaten

Give age appropriate food

Encourage independent feeding

Tolerate inappropriate mess – Avoid holding a cloth or napkin and constantly wiping even the slightest mess.

Parents of picky eaters usually develop anxiety and become stressed over whether their little one is receiving the right amount of vitamins when he is constantly pushing away his food and taking only small bites when forced. However there is a more pressing problem to worry about - the psychological effect of this.

Dr. Thomas Linscheid, Clinical Associate Professor of Pediatrics at the Ohio State University Children’s Hospital in Columbus, Ohio, explains that neophobia can arise from this. Neophobia, an abnormal fear of anything new, can arise in a child when new food is introduced. Even a small amount of something new on the plate could bring about a bout of anxiety. However, when a parent does not push a child to eat the food, the anxiety goes away. If the parent demands the child to eat the new food, the child would tend to cry and scream with the child’s anxiety level skyrocketing until the parent removes the plate. Dr Linscheid also mentions that if the new food is a certain colour, e.g. green, then the phobia might tend to extend to all green coloured food.

However, Dr. Linscheid advises never to give in to your child’s screams and whines. Stay consistent. All children enjoy attention. If you were to continuously substitute your child’s regular meals for food items he likes, in fear that he might go hungry for not eating what is set before him, then you are merely creating a pattern here. He becomes aware that when he refuses, he is bound to get better food. When the whining or screaming begins, give your child and yourself a ‘time-out’. Tune it out until it stops. Do not set a time limit as your child would become aware that after a certain amount of time he gets your attention again.

Other Ways to help!

If your little picky eater’s mealtime havoc in your otherwise organised world is stressing you out, take a deep breath and try some of the ways listed below to get your little one eating!

Try to avoid feeding your child snacks. ‘In-between snacking’ has been known to spoil appetites.

Start small – try smaller portions

Reflective eating – try and eat the same as your child. Show him that Mommy is having broccoli because it is a cool adult food.

Fun – Who said mealtimes have to be a drag? For instance, for breakfast, you could form a face with pancakes, maple syrup and berries.

Sneaking hiding – Try chopping up the ‘hated’ food and hiding them in the food. For e.g. finely chopped cabbage in noodles.

Special mealtime – Set aside one mealtime on a certain day once a week, for instance Friday afternoon lunch when he gets to pick whatever he likes to have for that meal, be it caramelised apples or sugared cereal.

Picky eating is a common problem; however, do seek help from a professional if you feel the problem is escalating beyond your control.