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5 subtle ways to tell your husband he's bad in bed

4 min read

In marriage, there will be times when you have to talk about the tough stuff. But when broaching sensitive topics, you have to be extra sensitive of your partner’s feelings. And if your husband’s bad in bed, you have to be even more considerate.

Men, after all, tend to put a lot of pride in their sexual prowess. And often, they think they’re tigers in bed when in reality, they’re mere kittens!

But you can help them along, suggesting ways to improve their technique without offending them.

If your husband’s bad in bed, here are 5 subtle ways to tell him.

husbands bad in bed

If your husband’s bad in bed, don’t despair! There are ways to make him better at it without wounding his ego. One way is to wait to bring up issues outside the bedroom! | image source: dreamstime

1. Be casual and positive

Bring up bedroom issues in casual conversation, while watching TV or having a meal at home. This way, it doesn’t seem like such a big deal. Focus on the good, what you loved about your latest encounter. This reinforces what you like between the sheets. Sooner or later, he’ll catch on.

Psychologist Kristen Carpenter agrees. She tells SELF that problems in the bedroom should be discussed outside of it. She advises women to be direct about what they enjoy in bed.

2. Continuously encourage the good

Even in the bedroom, you can subtly prod them to do better without directly saying it. How? Highlight what they’re doing right every now and then. For example, if you hate him going down on you but he thinks you love it, gently direct him up as he moves down.

Remember that, as long as you want to please each other, there is no right or wrong way to have sex. But there is a best way that suits you both.

“It’s so easy for men to feel like they’re doing something wrong, but it’s not about right or wrong,” explains marriage therapist Carin Goldstein. “It’s about being in sync, and all women’s bodies are different.”

husbands bad in bed

If your husband’s in bed, the best way to motivate them to do better is to highlight what they’re doing right! | image source: dreamstime

3. Redirect and don’t criticise

In a similar vein, Sex therapist Laurel House suggests not directly criticising while in bed. This makes sense because no one wants to be told what they’re doing wrong while in the throes of passion.

Instead, try to redirect his focus and actions in what you like in bed. Does he keep assuming a position that’s uncomfortable for you, tell him what position does feel good.

Remember that your hubby wants to please you, but even the best ones in bed need a little guidance, too!

4. Don’t overwhelm them

Once you do redirect them and talk about what you like, don’t overwhelm them with instructions. Take it one (or two) at a time. If a husband’s bad in bed, they might be struggling with self-doubt or even anxiety. The last thing you want is to barrage them with requests that can aggravate this.

So drop hints now and again, but don’t get too carried away!

5. Be open to feedback too

Remember that it takes two to tango in between the sheets. If your husband’s bad in bed, you can help him along by asking what he likes, too. Maybe his technique could improve when you assume positions or do moves that feel more natural to him as well.

Communication is important! At the end of the day it’s not the adventurous sex positions or the wild fantasies that make good sex. It’s simply being in sync, wanting to please each other, striving to express your love and desire in the best way possible.

Now that’s good sex!

sources: SELF.com, Bustle

Also READ: 6 Tips for better marital sex, according to a porn star

Republished with permission from: theAsianParent Singapore

 

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