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"My mother-in-law held my baby before me and I can never forgive her for that!"

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"My mother-in-law held my baby before me and I can never forgive her for that!"

"She held my daughter before I even got to...I'm so angry and upset about this."

So you carry your precious angel in your womb for a good 9 months, waiting for that day when you’ll finally be able to hold her in your arms.

You are so obsessively and selfishly in love with the life inside you that you want to be the very first person to feel her, to be the very first person she sees. You deserve the privilege after all, for you are her mother – her creator, nurturer and protector.

So imagine what this mom went through when she woke up after C-section and discovered that ‘someone else’ had gotten to hold her bundle of joy first?

And that ‘someone else’ was not her husband, nor the doctor, not even the nurse, but…her mother-in-law?

Can you feel her pain now?

I had an emergency C-section

A mom was left devastated when she realised that her mother-in-law had held her newborn before she got to. Mommy Miss Bax recently vented her anger on forum Mumsnet.

She writes, “I had my daughter six weeks ago.”

It wasn’t an easy delivery and she had to undergo an emgergency C-section, “It was a traumatic birth and ended in emergency C-section.”

Her husband was quite nervous and tense, and requested his mom to come over, as he needed some support, “She is a doctor and works in the same trust as I was delivering in, although she doesn’t work in the women’s hospital.”

It can get quite stressful to watch your pregnant wife being wheeled away for an emergency operation, and we totally understand what the hubby was going through.

My mother-in-law held my baby before me

So, the mother-in-law did turn up. Only, this mommy felt that she made herself more than useful, “She was able to obtain access to the recovery area with her works access card, and just let herself in without permission.”

So our mommy was blissfully unaware that her mother-in-law had actually sneaked in to the recovery area, “I wasn’t asked if it was okay if she could be there,…”

Now comes the worst part, “and because I was being stitched up on theatre still, she held my daughter before I even got to.”

“I’m so angry and upset about this.”

Oops! We feel you, mommy…

She clarifies that she had often discussed with her hubby about wanting some alone time with the baby before having relatives over, “Prior to going into labour, I’d discussed with my husband that I didn’t want anyone visiting for at least a day or so, let alone have my mother-in-law there before I’ve even held my own child.”

Not just that, this mom is also upset that her mother-in-law managed to overhear some private information about her, “A doctor came and spoke to me whilst I was in recovery and mentioned some very personal information about me, medically, which she then overheard too.”

“I’m actually in tears this morning thinking about it all again and so angry and upset still.”

Being a new mom is beautiful, but it is also an incredibly delicate, exhausting, scary period. It is a momentous time in a woman’s life, and there is an enormous surge of thoughts and emotions.

There are so many things a mom has planned, in anticipation of her little one’s arrival, and we can totally identify with this mom’s sorrow on finding that her precious dream has been snatched away from her in an instant.

But then again, as some other moms pointed out, what if the mother-in-law’s intentions were totally harmless? She was after all there, because her son had sought her help?

What if this had happened to you, moms? How would you react? Let us know in our poll?

(Source: Mirror)

Republished with permission from: theAsianParent Singapore

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